is it wrong to have physical relation with girl friend?

India
March 30, 2007 1:23am CST
i have been asked by one of my friend yesterday the same question and i was unable to answer. you people tell me is my friend right or i was right at time time by not giving any answer?
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@romel_ece (1290)
• Philippines
30 Mar 07
I think having a physical relation with our partners outside of marriage have two point of views to consider.If either one partner do it for fun or just for the sake of showing some love then the act of having physical relation is wrong.It is only considered not wrong if both partners have the desire of having physical relation that they do it because of love and commitment to each other.Both of them were responsible and happy of what they have done.
• India
30 Mar 07
well u all r coming up with great responses... thank u all... now i can answer my friend... once again thanx for ur response...
• Philippines
30 Mar 07
Deep within each and everyone of us, we know that it is wrong. Although we are now living in the age of permissiveness, its practice of the many will never make a wrong practice right. Deal with your conscience now, and come up with an honest answer. You know that it is wrong. If it were right, you would not mind seeing your sister do it with her boyfriend, nor would you mind your wife doing it with somebody else. Physical relations are meant to take place between husbands and wives only. They are the only persons who will find no trouble facing everyone at all, once the act causes the woman get pregnant. This is very true. Most couples outside of marriage, where the woman gets pregnant, are at a loss on what to do next, and most consider abortion as an option. That proves that it is a shameful act to indulge in among those who are not married couples.
• India
30 Mar 07
well u r right... and now i can answer my friend... thanx for ur reply...
@nowment (1758)
• United States
30 Mar 07
If it is an issue you do not feel comfortable giving advice on, then you did the right thing in keeping your mouth closed. Some topics people may be able to post here, but can't talk to the people they know freely about. Other topics may be to personal to post online to strangers but you need to talk to friends about, how you view which are which for you is very personal to you. As for the question your friend asked, well it is a cultural and religions opinion. For some it is wrong, either because of family values, cultural ones, or religious ones, or very simply because they are not yet ready at this time. What may be wrong now, could be different later based on how your own person mental, and emotional growth progresses. So for some it is not wrong at all, it is a natural act, it is part of being human and as natural as the other emotions, urges and desires. For others it is not right because many will feel a need to wait for marriage. So it would depend on whether or not the man and woman in question are ready, emotional for this kind of relationship, what a physical relationship would represent to each of them. For instance if a man knows for him it is just physical gratification, but that the woman he is involved with would take this as a deeper meaningful step as a commitment, and signifying the love between them, then he is wrong for misleading her. By the same token if for a man it is something that has meaning but she is just out for fun, then she would be wrong, because there is an element of dishonesty just to get what you want, should either do something like that. If one person feels it is ok, but the other doesn't then yes it is wrong. If both feel it is fine, then there is nothing wrong with it at all. This is an issue that has been debated for centuries. Here is an interesting question. There are many men who feel it is ok for a man to hae experience but not a woman. Then who is the man getting experience with?
• India
30 Mar 07
well thanx for such a great reply... seems that u have a very clear picture in your mind while writing this all... thanx for the reply...
• Philippines
30 Mar 07
It depends upon what you both want. S_x outside marriage must not be a practice but people have biological needs. If you both want to do it then nothing is wrong.
• India
30 Mar 07
u got a strong point here... thanx for the reply...