Cry with friends or console them?

Shalu, it is really sad to read about the demise of your best friend's brother. May his soul rest in peace! Yes, it was quite natural for you to cry for the departed soul. But now when he is no more.....I think you will have to console your friend .....you need to give him moral support.. and should assure him that you are there to share his sorrows..... those who have gone to heavan...cannot come back....slowly and gradually ....your friend has to face the reality. To help him face the reality....you have to lend him your helping support and assistance.

For me it is very difficult to face a situation like this. I can not console anybody and am not strong enough to see somebody is crying. I also do like you did. I will cry with them.

I'm sorry for your friend's lost, there is nothing wrong in crying with him but you need to be strong for him.

I dont cry with friends..I console them..But I do agree that there were occassions when I ve cried with my friends.Thats when one of my friend didint get in an entrance exam but I got in..I was very close to that guy and he didin get in anywhere else...But I had got in three places...If I had quit,it shouldnt have helped him as he was not even on the waiting list too...So noway I could help him..That is the only time I ve cried with my friend...

I think it's okay to cry with your friends and console them at the same time. When my friend lost her husband in the World Trade Center attack, I did plenty of crying with her. She was still comforted by me and I think it made her feel better that she wasn't crying alone.

For me, crying with a person is a way of consoling them! It's a way of showing them that you understand their emotions, and makes them see that you are there for them. Also, i think they may feel less embarassed to cry in front of you if you cry with them, because a lot of people feel uneasy about showing such strong emotions in front of people. Giving someone a shoulder to cry on and sharing in their pain is the best way of consolation in my opinion, as when i am upset, there is nothing worse than someone who seems uninterested in what i am feeling or someone who doesn't seem to care.