What would you do?
By Riptide
@Riptide (2758)
United States
March 31, 2007 10:51pm CST
Ok this is purely hypothetical and I am just curious about peoples opinions.
Imagine a scenario where you are having issues with a person or a group of people. After much controversy things calm down a bit and you move on with your life. The group or person keeps harping but you ignore them and go about your daily posting. You also participate in other forums and then you find out that that group or person signed up there as well under a different name. Would you get suspicious and would you feel like you are being stalked? Do you feel it's right that people that have issues with you, try to follow you around the web to try to get dirt on you? I would find that kind of behavior extremely childish and also criminal, since it does entail stalking. I have heard of things like that happening. So what do you think about that situation?
6 people like this
12 responses
@blackkatdreamer (1461)
• Canada
1 Apr 07
what you should do is as soon as they start bashing you you report them to the moderators on the forum and leave those posts alone as the modertor may need proof... people like to try to make you miserable both online and in person just dont react and report them as soon as possible
@glvfrank (32)
• China
1 Apr 07
In such situation, I think I wouldn't just give up, nor start a fight or something that exerts negative energy. You can't expect everybody else thinks or acts like yourself; There are over 6 million people on this planet after all. Imagine everyone using the very same language, having the very same food for breakfast, lunch, dinner, wearing the very same clothes...That sure would wear me out. So when people are being different, you are given the opportunity to express yourself to the rest of the world. The ideas, stances are all yours. Why do you care that much about how the others might respond(this doesn't exclude the basic respect we should all have for others)? I would keep making my point, keeping my stand and believing in what I believe in. Like you said, that kind of behavior is extremely childish, so just let kids be kids.
@emisle (3822)
• Ireland
1 Apr 07
I think that you can either confront the person and if they are the same person, than tell them to cop on and grow up, you can choose to ignore what's happening, or you can stay offline for a while and hope things settle down.
I've never had anything like that happen to me, but I do know that small incidents like that can escalade into more serious ones.
@samtaylorskykierajen (7977)
• Canada
1 Apr 07
I would be upset and find it more then childish as why would someone want to take this much interests in a stranger they never met to try and make things complicated for them or to bother with trying to find out more about them .
I would consider these people bored with their lives as can't figure out what the intersts would be in getting together to go after someone who wanted out of the discussions that were held .
@joy358 (491)
• Philippines
1 Apr 07
People who do this have probably nothing better to do with their lives so they alleviate their boredom by annoying other people.
I think that the best thing to do in this kind of situation would be to ignore them. Do not give them the satisfaction by being affected by their childish actions. Sooner or later they will get tired of annoying other people if they find that they can't really get a reaction out of them. Besides they can't really do you much harm online unless you have given them some personal details which I doubt you would in the circumstances...
@limosonia1 (1559)
• United States
1 Apr 07
I would say that it would be completely wrong. But really don't see the point on why somebody would do that. Are being actually that bored with there lives that they would cyber stalk another person that they have no idea about. It just blows me away how dome people think and why they would do such dumb things. I would think that a person that does that could be dangeroues and I would report them.
@mari61960 (4893)
• United States
1 Apr 07
Well I would consider it stalking... It seems quite childish. I would really be thinking that the person was trying to egg me into more controversy. I'd also probably be thinking that they should stop while they're ahead. I know I would really be ticked off. I can't stand it when people just won't let something go and move on. It's one of my pet peeves. I'm really not sure what I would do though. If I thought they were really a threat I would involve the police. If I thought they were just being a jerk then I would ignore them for as long as possible. While I think retaliation is wonderful, I wouldn't lower myself to their level.
@MorningDew (833)
• Saudi Arabia
1 Apr 07
Of course it's very childish... why would someone bother another person that much...
I think if i found myself in such a situation I'll just ignore such people and they'll eventually understand that they are getting nothing and they'll -hopefully- stop :)
@keithstieneke (823)
• Lincoln, Nebraska
1 Apr 07
Personally I would feel as if I were being stalked. If you haven't reported this person I would consider doing so. This type of behavior shouldn't go unchecked.
@EvanHunter (4026)
• United States
1 Apr 07
"Just because you're paranoid doesnt mean they arent after you" Lyrics from Nirvana. Trust your gutt feeling it will hardly ever do you wrong. I am a very paranoid person and admit it but I can say that it has served me well most of the time.
