what would you do if you were in my place?
April 1, 2007 11:29am CST
Last night, hubby and I took two clients to Casino Rama for a nice dinner and to see Ms. Dionne Warwick, who happens to be a particular favourite of mine. I was really looking forward to it and and did not even feel like playing the slots much (which is saying a lot for me!) because I was so excited to see and hear her, especially with that teaser of her singing in last week's episode of Dancing with the Stars. Anyway, we were seated half an hour early to showtime, and I had an end seat (I walk with a cane due to the stroke I suffered last year). My clients were to my right and hubby was the inside bookend. When Ms. Warwick started her show, she made it a point to encourage the audience to sing along with her if they knew the words and of course, we were all happy to comply. The two seats in front of me were empty until about Ms. Warwick's fourth song. By then, the audience was thoroughly warmed up, we were happily singing along, the whole row behind us was singing along, we were all very happily traipsing along memory lane. All of a sudden one of the women in front of me reached back and grabbed my arm and told me "I came to listen to Dionne Warwick sing, not to listen to you sing. Stop it!" Needless to say I was shocked. My face burned from the humiliation and my pipes froze mid-song. The ladies behind me told me "Don't stop! This is all fun, you are having fun, we are supposed to be having fun. Why should you stop? Go ahead and sing as much as you want!" By that time, I felt really bad, and I wanted to tell the woman in front of me that had she not come late, she would have heard Ms. Warwick encourage us, the audience, to sing along with her. I did not want to start a slagging session with her, because that would have been more of a bother to the rest of our section, but I stewed the whole time. Of course, it ruined my evening, but I had to put up a brave and smiling front for my clients. After half an hour, the two women in front of me stood up to leave! I couldn't believe it. And just to let you know how loud her rebuke was, our whole section stopped singing. The crowd in the rest of the theatre did not, though, and when she left, we started to sing again, but the feeling was not the same. Ms. Warwick, though, was absolutely, completely divine. Seeing her and hearing her in person was really worth it. She is such a classy lady. If you were in my shoes, what would you have done?
• United States
1 Apr 07
It is sad that it ruined your evening. I feel for you though, I know I would have been embarrassed, especially in front of clients. Some people just can't help but being rude. I would have probably done the same thing as you; stopped singing and burned with anger. I am not very confrontational when it comes to things like that, and I would not have wanted further embarrassement in front of clients. What I would have liked to have told her would have been, "build a bridge and get over it". Once again sorry you had to deal with such an offensive woman. Remember that you got to see one of your favorite performers, Dionne Warwick, and focus on that part of the evening. Hugs.
1 Apr 07
Thanks for the empathy, creativedreamweaver! :-} I guess being nonconfrontational is a characteristic most women share. You're right, sometimes you have to make a judgment call, especially when you are with clients (I always think that clients will always be evaluating your performance by your reactions.)! Ms. Warwick and her band were awesome! If you get a chance to see her when she performs in a place close to where you live, do so--you are in for a treat!(She said that she made a vow when she celebrated 40 years in the business that she would revisit every single place where she has ever performed! she is now 46 years in the business and still as wonderful as ever). Great big hug to you too ((()))!!
• United States
2 Apr 07
Hugs right back at ya. Thank you for best response. I do agree that especially when with clients or in a business situation you are judged on how you act or as it may be react. You did the right thing, even though it burns. I will see if she is coming anywhere near here. The closest would probably be Portland, and that is still five hours away. I enjoy her music though. She's phenominal. I bet the show excelled.