How to refuse an invitation politely?

United States
April 2, 2007 4:16pm CST
The weekends are the only time that we can spend together as a family. Sometimes we get party invitations or just some tea party invitations on these days and we don't feel like going at all. The whole week is so hectic, that we might want to sleep a little longer or go to some place nice and spend a quiet afternoon away from everybody. What is the best way to refuse an invitation politely? Sometimes we come up with weird excuses but then we don't like to lie to our friends also. Please suggest. Thanks in advance.
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@anastazia (154)
• Canada
2 Apr 07
In my book honesty is the best policy. If you're friends are friends theyll understand that "me" time and family times is important.
• Pakistan
2 Apr 07
I also enjoyed such moments very well,and they become my memorable days that i spent with my friends ,family and relatives.its very impossible for me to refuse any invitation to my friends or anyone else,its very very difficult for me,becouse i,m so polite..
@Kscott (634)
• United States
2 Apr 07
It really depends on the frequency of the invitations. If it is someone who is having a party, that you haven't spent time with in a long time, maybe a sacrifice on your part is due. I understand about the hectic week, we reserve the weekends for sleeping in, finishing up or starting new family projects, or just chiling and enjoying the family. You have to ask yourself, when I have a party, will these people show up, or will they remember that I cancelled on them. I usually will let the person down easy with something like "We have had a really busy week, and have already reserved this weekend for family projects and family time, sorry, but we wont be able to attend, but thanks so much for thinking of us". I would try to avoid lying to your friends and family, and just be honest and tell them....I want to sleep in, or just be with my immediate family this weekend, I'm sure they can understand. But if you cancel alot, like our family did, eventually you will just be not invited at all (I guess they want to save postage!!) and then you'll be feeling like a heel, because your not included.....A tough predicatment I must say!!! Being honest is always the best policy, and sometimes you just have to go to these family/friends party's or events just to keep your status in your circle!!!
@maddysmommy (16235)
• United States
2 Apr 07
Why not just tell them straight out why you don't feel like going? Tell them you've had a hectic week and your not up to it and you would rather relax at home and catch up on some sleep... or say to them if you can take a raincheck? catch up some other time. As long as what you say is done politely and honestly, then I'm sure your friends will be ok with it.