Parents, Children And Discipline

Philippines
April 2, 2007 7:33pm CST
There are times when parents become too strict with their children. Setting curfew hours, poking their noses into the friends we have and friendships we are developing, getting into our school records and looking through our school achievements, calling up our teachers for follow ups as to our school performances both in academics and extra curricular activities, demanding no girlfriend-boyfriend relationships until through with college, etc. Not content with all of these, they love to rant at us for our wrongdoings. They keep on reminding us of things to do and things we didn't do as promised. Oh, my. I can tell you endless things they did that I didn't take too much liking to. However, I listened - so there will be no collisions with them. Say sorry whenever I am in the wrong, as they have noticed. After all, they are looking after me and provide for me with all my needs. What about you, how did you react with the way your parents used to discipline you or in the way they are disciplining you now?
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@lucy67 (819)
• China
3 Apr 07
i shared the same feeling as you when i was young. but now i have my own child and can understand what my parents did to me. they love me so much that they were afraid something might go wrong with me. they did many things just like what your parents are doing to you now. at that time, i was dissatisfied and sometimes even angry. but now i can understand them. i even do some of the same things to my kid. as long as you know your parents love you, you can try to understand them. if you feel wronged and can't bear, you can communicate with them.
@maryannemax (12170)
• Sweden
3 Apr 07
anything which isn't too much is just right. but too much discipline widens the gap between the parents and the child. and communication will always have a great part in the relationship.
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• Philippines
4 Apr 07
No matter what we do with our children, we must always have an open communication line with them. This is the only way to make sure that no such thing as communication gap exists between all of you. If our children will understand what the parents are doing, they will respect the parents even more.
• Philippines
4 Apr 07
My parents are the most understanding parents in the world. I always have words from my father about life. how to deal with it. He was the one that told me that if I am going to have my own children, never say don't. Just tell them the consequences if they will lead the wrong path. In that case children will not become rebellious. I think I was an obedient child because I was pampered with love amd care by them.
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• Philippines
5 Apr 07
You have great parents. I am happy for you. Your children have that luck with them now having you for a parent. It is true that parents usually deal with their kids the way their parents did it to them.
@romel_ece (1290)
• Philippines
4 Apr 07
My father is a very strict disciplinarian to us and my mother is a conservative type.I think our parents have similarities in dealing our different family in terms of implementing discipline within the house.But I think all of these is just one way of showing us and letting us knew that they love us very much.And in return we must always respect and honor them as out beloved parents.
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• Philippines
5 Apr 07
It's alright to have disciplinarian parents. For as long as, they won't hurt us bodily and emotionally. Complications may arise if disciplining is being carried out wrongly. I believe that the best way to discipline kids if they are old enough to understand, will be to untiringly remind them about how to go about life. They will have to be reprimanded whenever they do wrong. Words do much more wonders than the rod once our children get to be old enough to understand things.
@maryannemax (12170)
• Sweden
3 Apr 07
i can say my parents disciplined me in the best and right way there is. they aren't too strict but not too lax, too. they try to be there for us whenever we feel bad about things. they always ask about our day and how we had been. open conversations are great opportunities to strenghten the relationship between parents and their kids. however, some parents go beyond these and are too strict on their kids. they thought that they are training their kids to be better people. but most of these kids who grew up with too strict parents which are beyond reasons already are those who are emotionally problematic. so, i am glad i was brought up the way my parents did.
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• Philippines
5 Apr 07
I could say that you are among those who have been lucky enough to have been trained and disciplined properly.
@Gemmygirl1 (2870)
• Australia
3 Apr 07
I guess it all depends on the age you're talking about - i can understand curfews through high school & such coz there are some weirdo's out & you're safer at home. As for college, i dunno much about that but figure, if you live at home with your parents then all you can do is follow their rules & things will go smoothly. My parents weren't too bad discipline wise, they don't intefere these days - being i'm 25 with my own family now but i do still take their advise in to account!
• Philippines
5 Apr 07
The truth is, kids with parents who really care are very lucky. Parents observe their kids always. Then, disciplining comes in whenever needed. My mother used to be away at most times. What I can remember is how she'd inculcate the right values to us so as to give us the guides towards doing things right. It did all of us her 6 surviving kids good.
• Singapore
3 Apr 07
I guess I am fortunate. My parents never discipline me much. But then again, I have always been a good boy. :P
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• Philippines
5 Apr 07
Your parents are so lucky for having kids like you. Most kids though, need a lot of attention and guidance from their parents so they will not be misguided by their classmates and others still they meet.
• United States
7 Apr 07
I had the exact opposite growing up. My mother really never bothered to check up on things like friends or school. In the end, though, I think she was lucky I never tried to do anything to get her attention. I wonder if she thought it would be too much work?
@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
6 Apr 07
Like you I respected them and also I would know when I was right or wrong and I would apologize. I had a strict upbringing as well but it has done me know no harm as such
@piropos (312)
• Philippines
6 Apr 07
I've read the responses by other people to this post and your comments on them as well. I would have to say that you posses wisdom that has come to you through your experiences through the years. I am a father to three kids ages 5 to 9. I married late, I was 36 years old when I got hitched. I should have gotten married earlier but certain things prevented me from doing that. My wish is that I could bring up my children, together with my wife of course, as good citizens and loving children up to the time they are to be parents themselves.
@Sailor (1161)
• United States
6 Apr 07
I discipline my son and daughter the same way, and I do this with love. And here is one of the main reasons, Life will give you no remorse but a parent will be there with open arms to give you a hug when needed. But if I don't do my best to prepare you for life then I will have failed my responsibilities.