mother or father??

@debshie (392)
Philippines
April 2, 2007 11:00pm CST
who do you think should discipline the child, the mother or the father? why do?
7 responses
• United States
3 Apr 07
Ideally it would be both as it takes a united frount to raise a child. If a child grows up thinking that only one parent will discipline them then they will walk all over the other and that is never good as a child needs two strong parents rather than just one but at times it has to be just one as in the case on a single parent, but if both parents are there there should be a unity there! Thank you for the interesting topic and have a great day!!
@smartmom (827)
• United States
10 Apr 07
I defintely think that disciplining the children should be a joint effort between both parents, as it can confuse the children if the parents are not on the same page. I do think do that parents have different roles when it comes to disciplining the children, as mothers often are more gentle than fathers. In my family, I would consider myself to be the main disciplinarian, as I have been living in a seperate country from my husband for two years together with my children, so we have kind of established a system. In addition, I am now a full-time stay-at-home mom, and my husband works 7 days a week, so I really do need to be the main disciplinarian. Of course, when their father is home, they have a bit more respect for him, when he raises his voice, because they hear me all day long.
@daryljane (3439)
• Philippines
10 Apr 07
i think it should be both..sometime there is always someone whose more lenient in disciplining but there is always someone who should spank or really make the disciplining seriuos..
• India
3 Apr 07
It really depend. Sometimes mother can teach the shild and sometimes father can do good things with the child. I think both are needed for the well of child.
@KissThis (3006)
• United States
3 Apr 07
I believe both parents should agree on the way to discipline a child. The parent who is with a child when the child needs disciplined is to be the one who does so. A child should be disciplined right away not whenever a certain parent is there to do it.
@rdurusan (624)
• Philippines
3 Apr 07
Its either the father or the mother or both.I give more weight to the father because he is the father and the father is always seen by a child as tougher than a mother.The role of a mother is to give his child advice and care because she is seen by a child as a tender loving mother.
• United States
3 Apr 07
Both parents need to dicipline their child or children. It is a two way street. They both need to agree on the form of dicipline and the have agreed to the same standards. If one or the other parent is against the other, diciplining a child will not be productive. Both parents should be equally involved in the raising of their children to be responsible adults.