When you parents become too old, would you send them into "Home for the Ages"?

@abednego7 (1060)
Philippines
April 4, 2007 8:05am CST
Its common in a rich country where government builds home for too old citizens and let volunteers and special institution take care of them. While its not that acceptable here in our country where grandfathers and grandmothers are taken care by their children until they sleep in peace. Actually its our culture that teaches us to do that and hopefully this will pass to our next generation. My parent home when they get too old will be mine.
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• Canada
4 Apr 07
I would never do this unless it was something they really wanted for themselves as there are people who really enjoy staying in a home as they feel they are not dependent on their children but I would never send either of my parents or my husband's parents to a home unless they expressed this as their wishes as in my opinion , my parents were there for me when I was younger and this would be the least I could do for them in their old age .
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@abednego7 (1060)
• Philippines
4 Apr 07
You really love your parents, its a good character. Its not just paying back to what they did to us when were still young but we are being guided by our love for them so we won't let them be in that institution to be cared by others who maybe will love them also but not the same as we can since they are our parents.
@abednego7 (1060)
• Philippines
4 Apr 07
You really love your parents, its a good character. Its not just paying back to what they did to us when were still young but we are being guided by our love for them so we won't let them be in that institution to be cared by others who maybe will love them also but not the same as we can since they are our parents.
• Indonesia
6 Apr 07
In modern country it is really happend but in my country (Indonesia) it is not common to do that. Here my father and my mother do not like to stay in that home. they would like to stay around their big family. Even sometimes make any problem for the new generation but we are here understand too old means equals to baby. So always patient to serve them.
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@abednego7 (1060)
• Philippines
12 Apr 07
A good child you are. Hoping that every one of us would think the same as you. Thanks for comment.
• United States
4 Apr 07
No, I would never put my parents in a nursing home or anywhere else. I would let them stay with me. If they were really old and sick, I would find a way to hire a nurse. My dad was the guardian of my grandmother and my great aunt when I was little, and I grew up spending weekends in nursing homes. I was always grossed out by the smell... a mixture of urine and disinfectant... and it also seemed sad to me that all these people were sort of locked up in there. And the staff members were often rude. My grandmother was in a place in Waucanda, and we later learned that the staff was abusing and neglecting the people there, and stealing from them, and everything else. So based on my own traumatizing childhood experiences of nursing homes, I would never be able to put my parents in one.
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@abednego7 (1060)
• Philippines
5 Apr 07
That is unpleasant experience, add reasons why we have to take care our elderly in their late years personally. It would give them more strength and will make them feel that they still a part of the family not a burden.
@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
4 Apr 07
It depends on circumstances sometimes the elderly can become too hard to look after for their own safett and for the sanity of the people looking after them, it is better at times for for them to be somewhere where there is people specially trained for their conditions....
@abednego7 (1060)
• Philippines
4 Apr 07
I guess it also depends on their family bonding with their children. If you are really close to your parents and dearly love them, I think you will not let them being taken care by others than you unless they have some conditions that cannot be treated well in your own home.