A beautiful or handsome spouse is a torture if ...
By twaambolee
@twaambolee (260)
Zambia
April 4, 2007 9:36am CST
they do not find you beautiful or handome(a book i was reading on relationships calls this the darkside rule).In your opinion do you think a very beautiful/handsome spouse/bf/gf,has basic traits that make the relationship unhappy?Are good looks always/mostly important in your view?
comments welcome.....
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3 responses
@sadgirl_1958 (1088)
• United States
31 May 07
A person's looks may initially attract a person to another but it is certainly not my first choice in a relationship. I am more interested in personality, intelligence, emotional capacity, and compatability then I am interested in how he looks. Looks fade, no doubt about that but personalities stay and stay and stay.
@sadgirl_1958 (1088)
• United States
1 Jun 07
Thanks for picking mine as best answer. I recall my nephew telling me that no women were interested in him because he was prematurely balding. I told him that any woman that was interested only in a man's hair was only up for later disappointment as many full head of hair falls in older age. I told him that he should also not hold a standard of beauty for his pick - but to find someone who was intelligent and fit his personality. He is quite happily married now!
@freesoul (3021)
• Egypt
8 Apr 07
I think that no matter how good the beautiful one is the "uglier" one would always be jealous and have trouble with how people look at their partner and maybe think that their partner is "too pretty" for them. So yes, I think that the better looking side should be always aware of that and make some effort to erase the other side's doubts and fears.
@twaambolee (260)
• Zambia
10 Apr 07
Thanks for your response freesoul.So would you say people should date within their looks? handsome with beautiful or not so handsome with not so beautiful...
@nickventere (1420)
• Zambia
8 Sep 08
It all depends on how such comments are made. I think it would be unwise to dwell much on commenting on one's outward features in the first place. The best would be to accept your partner as they are. You chose them in the first place.
