Have love, family and internet eaten up your time with friends ?
By mimpi
@mimpi1911 (25464)
India
April 4, 2007 11:59pm CST
1. diya ray has just got married, happily married. Her days are occupied with decorating and executing household stuff all through and in the evening she is even busier decking up for her hubby to return. She hardly has any time and inclination to freak out or even call her old buddies.
2. anouska ghosh has been married since 2 years. A perfect mom, a busy corporate executive and a good wife, her day passes by in a jiffy and she doesn’t even remember her sworn-in friends.
3. anindita mitra has been married for a long time. Without any child and a husband ever busy with white collar job, she gets all time on earth to surf the net. She is a netizen in her own right. A mylot freak, she hardly feels the urge to socialize with friends and family.
Most of my friends can relate to all of these. What about you ? Do you feel that love, marriage, family and Internet have eaten up your quality space with your friends?
please share.
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6 responses
@aidonia (4209)
• Greece
5 Apr 07
You are right but what else we can do....The family comes first and if you have children you need most of your time to spend for them.This the way the things must go because nothing more important than the family.
Now if you work you need at least 8 hour at the day for your job.Here you can't do much ,if you need work....if not more free time for you.
The internet you can handle it better....you can spend time to communicate with your friend by net too but also you can just let it and spend this time with your friend...
Now about me,I have some good friends and I try remember them as often I can.The true is the most time this happen by phone and not from going out with them.They understand the situation ,most of them are just like me.,married ,working mothers.But when one of need help we support each other with any way.After all the quality time with them haven't to do with the quantity ,right?
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
9 Apr 07
yes, i agree. but sometimes, i feel i should have spend more time with friends, they are such sweet bunch of ppl.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
9 Apr 07
yes, i agree. but sometimes, i feel i should have spend more time with friends, they are such sweet bunch of ppl.
@preetshweety (1046)
• India
9 Apr 07
Hey this has hapenend wid me as well. Whether its Diya ,or Anuoska or Anindita, I think all are real life examples. I feel many a tims that I m very busy wid my Family after my marriage that I cant give time to my friends or Dear ones.
Sometimes i find myself very alone and left in darkness wen i need my Friends very much but cant contact them or share wid them.
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
10 Apr 07
yes, even i can relate to that. a few years of my marriage have swallowed in all wonderful relationships of my life. now, i am recovering them, its tough though.
@hockeygal4ever (10021)
• United States
5 Apr 07
I would say that family definitely takes presedence over everything else, including friends but most of my friends have family of their own and understand. As for the internet, I've never allowed that to be my only means of entertainment or contact with others. I still get out often and enjoy the real world. I've enjoyed the internet but haven't let it taken my life over so I can't say as it has replaced time with my friends at all. I have seen where it happens though and it's sad indeed.
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
5 Apr 07
i really appreciate. that's how it should be but i am afraid in most cases things work the other way and we are not able to balance between love and friendship. i feel we all have spaces defined for every one in our life and no one should eat up other's space. but then this is theory, i wish we could be actually like this.
thanx for sharing
happy posting.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
5 Apr 07
Real frineds and relatives stand above internet. Because you can communicate with them more effectively, freely ........U can share your joys and sorrows and vice versa.........and I think to remain in touch with them is my first priority. Internet comes after that.........when you have discharged all your responsibility towards your family........office..... and when you have taken care of each and everything which is important......thereafter internet comes. Net or say sitting on mylot gives you a different type of feeling and satisfaction........it is the feeling which only you can feel.....till such time you are glued to net. Once you are away from it...........you have to enter in the real world and I believe my responsibilities comes first then If I have time I should come on net and share my thoughts with friends like you on mylot.
Deepak
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
5 Apr 07
i really appreciate deepak. that's the way is should be. we should prioritise things in life. let me ask you one thing, excluding internet, do you feel that love, marriage andf family have constricted you time with friends. could you give the same time and space for your friends like the way you used to do before marriage??
@teison2 (5921)
• Norway
6 Apr 07
I think we go through fases in our life when friends are the most important of all to us. Then at other times we have other things at the front of our minds. But i believe that true friends never go away. When we get to a different place in our life and have more time and energy for our friends the great ones will still be there.
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
9 Apr 07
some beautigul thoughts here, much appreciated. i couldnot agree more with you teison, true friends are indeed beyond everything and anything.
thanx for sharing
