Have I become old now that I am a mother?

United States
April 5, 2007 11:05am CST
After giving birth to my son, almost three years have passed. I cook, do all the chores around the house and take care of my baby. After all these years, I suddenly find myself older and not being able to do things I used to do so easily in the past like running and jumping and playing and going up and down the stairs so quickly. Am I getting old? I am only in my early thirties and I feel old already. Being a full time mom is not an easy task. How do I get back my youth? Is it at all possible to stay young at heart? Please suggest. Thanks in advance.
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32 responses
• Philippines
6 Apr 07
im only 19 and i don't exactly know yet how a mother feels but i think i have something to say. first of all, being a mom is not just about doing chores and taking care of your kids and keeping the family together. its about not being alone, being loved and in love as well. put it this way, its good for you that you have your own family that will be with you til you get old, i mean think of the other singels, who havent found yet the one they love, and they are scared to live and grow old alone. living alone is not easy. maybe if you think your position, as a mom, in a more positive way, things around you will be positive too. your emotions, outlook in life and yourself. it all starts with your emotions right? and if you feel good, you will also look good. and of course, you cn still look pretty being a mom. you can eat healthy, which will make your skin glow, and do exercise in the house. aerobics or anything. exercising doesnt mean you have to go outside of the house. to be happy, do not do the things you like, like the things you do.
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@lreddell (172)
• United States
10 Apr 07
Katherine, Wow! Such insight for a woman of only 19. This is impressive. You speak the truth. Wel l commented my dear. Hugs!
@jen20619 (1302)
• Ireland
6 Apr 07
Yes I totaly understand as after I had my child I stayed in more had gained more weight I felt so old and I was only in my twenties.Yes the best thing to do is stay young at heart also keep you appearance looking well as looking well will also make you feel well.This is a great remedy for keeping you feeling young.
• China
6 Apr 07
well,it could tell form your words that you are not quite satisfied with some your daily performance.And you think that is the sign that you have become older.But,just come to think of it,you are only in your early thirties,though you have given birth your child,you can still do things as you like,and i am sure you can do that as well as you once did.
@kupi62 (2)
• United States
6 Apr 07
Appreciation for all you are doing isn't a daily occurance. Our children won't realize how much we do until they have their own children. As for the husbands, well they stay in training. It can be very discouraging at times. Sounds like you have lost a part of yourself, this is why you feel old. Us mothers give up so much for our families that we forget to live our lives. It's a balancing act, without being selfish do something for yourself, remember you have but one life to live. Recapture part of your youth by doing something you enjoyed then, spend a night or a weekend with the girls. I'm not saying go back to those running and jumping days move forward about 10-15 years.
@lreddell (172)
• United States
6 Apr 07
No you are not getting old. But if you have your mind set that you are, you will be. I am a mother, wife, lover, housekeeper, accountant, referree and much more. I've been those things for 21 years. Does you r partner help around the house? Are you too tired for s*x? Girl, you need a break and it's time to be a little selfish. You need to get out of the house, and take some quality time for yourself. Have someone you trust take care of your baby on a Saturday. Go to the mall, get your hair/nails done. Go to a movie, eat at your favorite restaurant. Do something just for you! As to the ability to stay young at heart - Yes You Can! Take my advice, on a regular basis and I think you will feel better. I am in 43 years young, and I'm loving and living life to the fullest. You are so young still and you should be enjoyin it!! Warm Hugs!
@sunup13 (420)
• Canada
6 Apr 07
I am 25 and I just had a baby. I suddenly felt a lot older than my friends. They are in their twenties as well but are either in very new relationships or none at all. They all go out a few times a week, dress in printed tees and I feel that I can't do those things now that I am a mom. Even when I do go out to a bar, etc I feel out of place. Maybe it's just me because they don't try and make me feel like that. I also just discovered I might have arthritis and this really exacerbates the fact that I am feeling older then my age. And with a new baby it really couldn't have come at a worse time! I try and dress nice and not in sweats all the time, it makes me feel better and not like a house wife. Also I love exercising with my daughter and playing and laughing.
• Philippines
6 Apr 07
Yes it is true that raising a child is no joke thats why you have also to think about yourself. Give yourself some pampering ones in a while. Go to the parlor just to relax. Have a form of exercise like brisk walking, in that way you will feel revived. Dont forget to also take care of you beauty with a simple routine.
@anya11111 (169)
• India
6 Apr 07
try ramdevji maharaj pranyam excercises. that really helps. try having a good breakfast a small lunch and dinner before the sun sets. that is what ayurved tells us! keep your bowels clean by using isab gul(dietary fiber) every day! dont try to miss your pranayam
@foogirl (87)
• United States
6 Apr 07
No way....you're not old! It's tiring being a mom and fun at the same time...if you let it be. What you need is something to re-energize you. If you have a hobby then start doing that more often, anything that makes you feel like you're doing something for yourself! You deserve it, we all do..take some time for yourself and treat yourself whenever you can.
• China
6 Apr 07
i am a chinese girl, nice to meet you. We admire that you are a mother. In China, we have strong motherhood concernmation, and as a women, we consider mother is the greatest man. Maybe, since your kids, you are very tired, but i think you are happness in your parts of time. Because of working, we can not lift together with my mother and father. I miss them, so they are. Wish you happy every day.
@vanities (11351)
• Davao, Philippines
6 Apr 07
plss take some vitamins so that you wont feel the stressed of the household chores youve been doing ..you must give yourself one day for your own only so that you could at least breathe some fresh air outside or go mallings together with he family or go to a parlor..mingle with friends ..by doing so you wont feel the stressed manage your time wisely..
• India
6 Apr 07
perhaps you hav become old as it sounds from ur words
@aprilsong (1886)
• China
6 Apr 07
You are right,being a mother is not easy.I can understand you well.Cuz i am a mother too.My son is now 6 yr old.I did feel getting older after i have my kid.But as my son grows up,i have more free time now.And i think i will recover from it. You know,when my son was 2 yrs old,i went to hometown.A neighbor didn't recongnize me at the first sight.Then she said"oh,my,you become so old in only two yrs."I felt very very sad.So i know your feelings well.Takeing care of kid,washing,cooking,all this chores make we women have no time to even see careful ourselves in the mirror. Friend,come on,we are not old at all.Looking at your kid,he is a gift god sent u.Enjoying what you are doing,cheer up,you will look younger.
@aprilsong (1886)
• China
6 Apr 07
You are right,being a mother is not easy.I can understand you well.Cuz i am a mother too.My son is now 6 yr old.I did feel getting older after i have my kid.But as my son grows up,i have more free time now.And i think i will recover from it. You know,when my son was 2 yrs old,i went to hometown.A neighbor didn't recongnize me at the first sight.Then she said"oh,my,you become so old in only two yrs."I felt very very sad.So i know your feelings well.Takeing care of kid,washing,cooking,all this chores make we women have no time to even see careful ourselves in the mirror. Friend,come on,we are not old at all.Looking at your kid,he is a gift god sent u.Enjoying what you are doing,cheer up,you will look younger.
@moneytree (188)
• India
6 Apr 07
Hi there! Well the first thing i see is that you are not doing a routine exercise i know you would say its difficult to do it or dont get the time. You have to make time for a routine jog, join a gym thats the best like that you will be able to concentrate and make quality time for your body.
• Canada
6 Apr 07
Well all those activities has taken it's toll on you. It's no joke raising a baby and doing all the house works at the same time. But as you say, you still have the eagerness to stay young, you just have to learn to put aside time for yourself. Why don't you schedule a weekly schedule to the spa? I'm sure your husband will be happy to see that despite having a hardworking housewife, he goes home to a hot one too.
@jenskids (99)
• United States
6 Apr 07
i know alot of people will tell you it is all in you head but I know where your coming from I am 29 and have 3 kids 7,2and 8mo.And when the day is done and there all in bed I am so tired,I love to dance and just last weekend my sister had a sitter for mine and her kids so we went out we left the house at 9 and buy 11 I was ready to come home,everybody eles still wanted to stay so I went out to sleep in the car Ifelt like a party pooper but I was so tired,I have a part time job a house to clean and three very active kids,after that I have no time or energy for anything eles.If you find out how to get your youth buy short of selling the kids(lol) let me know.
@y4175317 (204)
• Indonesia
6 Apr 07
we didn't get back our teens, time goes quickly. we must enjoyed our life. a baby try to become like baby,he wants to learn walking,speaking,understanding what people say. same like him, a mother try become,a good mother,isn't you?maybe you can not joke to your friends or hang on together. but if you have young heart, don'y care what you are old,you must be look like young
• United States
6 Apr 07
im also a full time mom im 29 and i have the same problem.i think it is just because you are a full time mom which takes alot of energy to keep up with the kids so you are just tired it has nothing to do with getting old because your not its just that you use so much energy to keep up with your 3 year old .
• Philippines
6 Apr 07
Age is how old we feel about ourselves. I am also a mom of two kids and in the early thirties. I am a full time mom and I do everything at home. My husband would usually comment that I look like 10 years older than my age, but with a smile on his face. I guess, he's quite disappointed that my looks changed a lot since we first met. He might be kidding but that's half true. Because almost all my time are dedicated to my kids and the chores at home I forget to take emphasis on my body. I would even pass on putting lotion because even bathing means limited time to me. I may be less attractive now than I used to be but I am more fulfilled than ever as a full time mom. I have a happy disposition in life and I enjoy what I'm doing. I hope you too.