Friends that aren't really friends...

I remember when I had my daughter my life did change and I could not do the things I did before as my new commitment was to be with my daughter all the time. I did loose alot of my friends who I had worked with and even a few who I thought were true friends. One friend I had told me in a round about way that I had wasted my life by having a baby. However, I would not have changed it for the world and now they are older I am back at work and meeting new people all the time. It is still quite rare though to meet a true friend, although I was fortunate to meet a great woman 3 years ago where I work and we have a good friendship. As for your friend who moved out, it must have been hard for you to read what she said on her myspace site, but how are you to know what she is feeling if she puts a wall around her. Maybe the wall she has built is too high and she is not allowing anyone in. There has to be a bit of give and take and she should have been able to talk to you about how she was feeling. We cannot read peoples minds, so you should not feel bad. You gave her somewhere to stay, which shows you are a good friend. Maybe she needs to knock away a few bricks and let people in. In my view I see it as a defense mechanism when she feels people don't understand her. She will go through life not knowing who are her true friends like yourself if she doesn't let anyone in. Most people can count their true friends on one hand. You have what most people want, a family, and this is what is so important. Friends come and go but a good family stick together. I wish you happiness with your daughter, it is such a great relationship when it goes well.