What are the reasons why we get friend's request here in mylot?
By raijin
@raijin (10345)
Philippines
April 8, 2007 6:33am CST
Lately, I've been cleaning and adding friends on my list at the same time. I am just wondering what are their resons why they make a request to add us in their list.
Is it because they want something from us to help them here, especially in resolving some of their discussions?
Is it because they are looking to send their referrals to other money-making sites?
Is it because they want someone to add a number of responders on their posts?
Is it because of something like a hidden agenda, that most of us would likely want to know?
Or are there more reasons that most of us do not know, if there's any, then can you please tell us why?
As for me, I simply do not like those members who just post and post which are not of my interest. I delete them instantly, because I don't want to waste time in scrolling back and forth just to choose some discussions on my friend's list which I know are of good quality. Also to those who do not even take their time to answer or read simple topics, which I know are more contributive to the whole mylot community and informative as the same time.
I added some of my previous friends here because I know that they made a great help for me, not only in earning points here, but also because I learned so much from them and them to me also.
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@lossforredwords (3620)
• Philippines
8 Apr 07
I think most people here add friends is to promote their site, add someone to answer their discussion and and to spam.
i don't really make any request cause for me once I'm the one who make the request I feel a bit obligated to response to their post even if its not that interesting. Me being here for five months maybe I only make few request and I request those that I think make a good and quality discussion.
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@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
Yes, and most of the people I made some requests to add them to my lists are very helpful. If ever I made another request, it is because I have a great respect of them and that i like the posts that they are making.
I won't add a friend, if I expect too much from them or from me..
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@sweetlady10 (3611)
• United States
8 Apr 07
I am not sure or you can say confused about why some people want to add more friends. I get a lot of requests from people who has 0 post but lots of friends. I have no idea why they want friend before they have posted anything. Also some people are there who posts so many discussions themself and they really want to respond me to their discussions so they request me to add as a friend. But some of them never respond to my discussions.
Some people are there who need a friend to just send a referral link. And some are there I think who just want to make a big list of friends, nothing more than that.
So I would say that the reasons you have cited in the discussion all may be possible for friend's request.
Personally I make a request if I can see interesting discussions posting by a member.
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@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
Yes, I don't like being flooded with discussions from my friends that I do not have any interest of. Especially when they almost do this in just a span of a minute, everyday, when they log on here and then I find no interesting or quality at most of it. It triggers me to delete it instantly, as I don't like their ways of posting here on mylot.
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@GardenGerty (157652)
• United States
9 Apr 07
I frequently do not understand why someone requests me, but 98% of the time I accept them. If it turns out they are really pushy about their money making opportunities, to the exclusion of everything else, I may delete them. Or I may check out the opportunity. It does not hurt me at all to leave them there. I have requested very few friends, and it is usually because they have a discussion that catches my interest, then I go to their profile and like what I see there as well. I am related to some of my friends, as well. I do find a large variety of friends to be helpful and entertaining.
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
9 Apr 07
I add or request friends because I think they are interesting to me for several reasons. How they write, what they write, how old they are or where they come from. Even if someone is much younger than I, if I read their work and enjoy it for any reason I add them. Strangely enough, the majority of people on my list are around my age.
I've even added someone because I admired their avatar. LOL.
@maribel1218 (3085)
• Philippines
8 Apr 07
I have the same clearing operations before raijin lol!! I think I get tired of deleting some members who just ask you to add them to be your friend then that's it, nothing follows.
The real essence of having friends here do many wonders because of exchanging of views and informative ideas while we are learning from it at the same time building a good friendship.
I just really don't know about the other members who just got out of sight or never have a chance to hear thier views or opinions at all but they do have effort on asking you to be a friend.
As for my experience in one of my friend here is that I just got copied word by word in one of my discussion and it was really irritating and it really made my blood boil lol!!!
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@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
8 Apr 07
Yes, it really ticks me at times. Especially when people would try to copy even theme of our discussion and post it right on the same day, I think of them as discussion snatchers too. I mean, maybe they should make a post of it the day after. A simple sign of royalty and respect to the first individual who started the topic, as I would even encourage them to do it too, but not during the same day we posted it.
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@valerfore (298)
• Singapore
8 Apr 07
I add people who posted interesting responses to my posts (including you :P). It helps me keep track of their discussions so I can contribute to them if I can, like what I'm doing now!
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@valerfore (298)
• Singapore
8 Apr 07
Yea, but too bad I can't actually spend much time here on Mylot. Only the occasional post here and there :)
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@Idlewild (6090)
• United States
8 Apr 07
Different users have different reasons, but some people seem to add friends so that they can then send all their'friends' money making pitches through the messaging feature. Others just like to collect friends, I think. Some people have requested me as a friend and then when I check their profile they have 200 friends and have only been on Mylot 5 days, and only responded to a few discussions!
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@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
8 Apr 07
Yes, I've known some of these type of users. And I try to decline their requests to the best that I can, as I don't want to be one of their victims.
Recently, I saw a member who has a a number of 2000+ friends on his/her? list got active again. I'm still wondering what this person's motive is, I'm glad that I did delete him/her? from the start.
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
8 Apr 07
It seems most my many friends requests are due to my so called popularity here onmylot for good discussions. I don't think I
should be this popular here but seems that's what new friends
say in PM when they get approved. Thanks for the discussion also.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@hoghoney (3747)
• United States
9 Apr 07
I have gotten a few friends here now and I try to visit them as offten as I can but when someone wants to be my friend I will add them everyone is given a chance and if they dont reply them someday they will look back and think about what a good friend they could of had in me so I just say its their loss. good luck with your friends list I have gone through mine at times also.
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@retardedrugrat (4791)
• Canada
8 Apr 07
I think we all personally have our own reasons for sending friends requests, just like we all have our own reasons for accepting.
I've had a couple of friends requests that I accepted, only to have them send me a private message instantly asking me to sgn up under their links to different programs. They were told politely not to ever do that again, and deleted. One of them had the cheek to send me another friends request the following day.
For the most part though, I think we send friends requests because of a common interest or goal, or because we've answered quite a few of each others discussions. I'm a little choosy about who I accept though.
I won't accept anyone who has very few discussions to their name, and a huge huge friends list, and I won't accept those who start a load of one liners. They're no good to me.
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@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
Aww, I also got those reutrning "friend's requests!;)"
For me, I gave them a chance for the sake of my being fair to all people. But they are not those people who send me PM's about their money-making schemes, as I really do not want to have some of them in my list!;)
Yep, I make sure that those people who gives sends me request are those who I think have the same interest as mine. Because I won't really waste my time on answering some of their topics which I consider as rubbish, and are not of my preferrence.
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@liranlgo (5752)
• Israel
9 Apr 07
That is an intersting post, and i am sure it is relevent to all mylotters. i will answer it in two parts.
the first part will be, when do i send a friend request.
the second part will be, why do i think other's are sending me friend's request.
I send a friend request to someone, only when i read a few of his posts and replies, and feel that we are in the same interst group and take the discussions seriously.
The reason for sending this friend request, is to make sure, that i will be notified when this person opens a new post, and will be able to decide if to answer it or not.
a part from that, i would also like to see what posts he opened, before i entered as a mylot member, and i do find it easier, if he is in my friend's list.
The second part of the answer, is about other's sending me their friend request.
I would like to believe that they are doing it for the same reason that i do. but i know that this is not always the reason.
Many people just like to have a big long list of friends, maybe they do think, that it helps their earning.
but i am sure they are not able to respond to all of them.
and by that, they are missing the important reason, that they added this friend to their list.
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
Thanks friend for a very broad and positive explanation , as I am sure you have some of them on your lists, just like what I have some on my own!;)
I just can seem to understand others that adds us, but don't even made a single post to our won discussions. I only have a few friends who didn't even make a response to mine, I don't delete them because they provide me some qualtiy posts everytime I would look for started posts.
There are just others here who depend and rely to much on us(old members), but don't even take their time in answering to some of the discussions that we know can be of great help to them..
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@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
9 Apr 07
Very frankly, I make friend's request because friends provide me the direct link to discussions to respond via email notification. As such, I request friends only after viewing their profile as to whether I can respond to their discussions. I do not request for friends if I find that I am not able to respond to any of their discussions so far. However, if I do not respond to any of the discussions, it doesn't mean I am ignoring the discussions. It just meant I cannot make a positive and constructive comment. It is not my style to respond just for the sake of responding :P
I also make friend's request if I find that the friend does respond to the type of discussions I am likely to post, which are often general and not technical. Shouldn't it be a win-win for both? It is only when friends help one another that the community does grow positively.
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
10 Apr 07
Yes, but in every community, there are also some we call as "rotten tomatoes." There are people here who will only take advantage of what we possess or have, especially those who PM's us with nonsense money-making schemes. It's annoying, as I am not here to make money but to enjoy and share whatever I have in my mind..
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@ozzydee70 (465)
• Germany
8 Apr 07
i dont expect my friend here in mylot to response to a discussion i've started, we all have different interests anyway. i chose some friends that respond with sense. you're right in saying that we'll learn so much here.
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
8 Apr 07
I don't expect some also because I'm not a good topic starter, I prefer to be more on responding. But I also would expect them to make good postings in starting some of their, as most of the times I would love to get involved and respond to it.
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@web2samus (255)
• Uruguay
8 Apr 07
interesting, I was talking something similar here: http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/964429.aspx because it's rude to me to request a friend without being able to talk to them first. In my personal case I request friend to people who seem interesting based on their posts/topics/opinions and so, and because it's nice to be connected with other people I think but... the truth is that it's all about the hidden agenda ¬¬!! :P
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@BrightSpring (19)
• China
9 Apr 07
I didn't have a lot of time in mylot and just a interest to it and a chance to make frient.Some tims I even introduce my friend and schoolmate to enjoy it too, but failed. so let it be!
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@wildhorse (1293)
• Egypt
10 Apr 07
Well I don't really know what to think about this, I'm still relatively new here and I'm happy to expand my friends list, I must say that I wonder why some people add me without responding to any of my discussions before or after I approve them, I only add people after i respond to their discussions and because I liked their topics; then I do my best to respond to most of my friends according to what goes up on the top of "discussions my friends started" list.
Actually a few of my friends respond to most of my topics and also I only do the same for a few, the rest may not post many discussions or they post in intrests that I don't like or don't know much about but they are still friends.. there's the occasional chances that we respond to each other's discussions.
I must say that some people added me and I accepted them but I find it hard to respond to anything they write, I'm not sure if I should delete them because of that or maybe because some don't respond to my discussions? I still don't know, I don't like deleting anyone and maybe I will wait another month or so and if my list got very crowded i will rethink it again.
@tajinder_18 (324)
• Malaysia
8 Apr 07
i am wondering the same thing as you.but i just approve all the friend's request i received.but after that none of them message you introducing themselves to be friends.so i guess they added you not because they wanna develop a friendship with you.maybe they just wanna earn something.i believe most of the members here have their won agenda which they looking for it becomes reality in mylot
@uiwwitch (892)
• United States
9 Apr 07
I am new here and took me several days before I had the courage to add friends. I initially added the ones that replied to my posts and the ones that I replied to because we have the same interests and would contribute to a very fruitful time here at mylot. I am hoping that they approve me. What bums me is that we cannot send a message to our non-friends so we cannot really tell them why we're requesting for them to be our friends. I think that would be a good feature because we will know instantly if the requester is a spammer or genuinely want to request our friendship for the sake of mylot community discussions.
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