I am so annoyed, not even a thanks mum

April 8, 2007 8:27am CST
My children who live with me fulltime are 11 and 17 went to stay with their father and his G/F's family for easter. They both came home argueing with each other as usual and wanted their easter eggs from me and my fiance. We didnt even get a thankyou, then my son was bragging about how he had spent $60 on easter for all of them so then i said 'jokingly oh so then where's mine'? He then says 'oh i didnt get you one'. I didnt even realy want an egg and i never expect them to buy me anything but usually they give me a little egg out of what they have been given seeing as they get a double lot off eggs being from a split family. My son has only been living back with me for 5 months and i do all the running around for him and clean up after him and not to mention getting up at 5am so that he can get 30mins driving lesson in before he goes to work and again in the arvo for another lesson. I am annoyed at the fact that he thought about all of them and not us, they who do nothing for him and he has spent the last few months telling me how much he dislikes them because of the way they treat him and we dont even get a thankyou. I just dont know what to say to him or even if i should. Would you be feeling the same way or am i over reacting and what would you say to him.
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@astromama (1226)
• United States
19 Apr 07
I cannot say I wouldn't be hurt in the same situation, but I also think that sometimes we take for granted the people we know will always love us and be there for us. In my family, I always make sure to be on my 'best behavior' when I'm around my dad and his side of the family, but with my mother I can be myself... even if that means I'm being bossy, ungrateful, rude, or some other form of obnoxious, lol! The point is, I know my mother will accept and love me regardless, never hold a grudge, and forgive me for my weaknesses. Not true of my father's side. All I'm saying is, yes, it stinks to not be thought of and thanked for all you do for him, but at the end of the day I believe that at the end of the day YOU are the one whose love he doesn't have to win over, and he knows that. Maybe you should tell him it rather hurt your feelings... or let it slide until Mother's Day and give him another chance to show how thankful he is for such a loving, caring mom!
@lightningMD (5932)
• United States
8 Apr 07
i would be feeling hurt also...but i wouldnt say anything..he will come to reralize who takes care of him and is always there for him as he gets older and matures...until then just be thank-ful you have him with you and he is healthy because that is more than some parents have today..
@sedel1027 (17855)
• United States
8 Apr 07
If my child was this ungrateful, I would stop doing things for he that he takes for advantage.
@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
8 Apr 07
Oh I have given up on people long ago, people just don't think of other peoples feelings any more, we are losing the art of saying thank you at all, people just take being given something as their God given right, I just will never understand people of today....