is it wrong to be a virgin??

India
April 8, 2007 3:32pm CST
i'm 18 and i'm still a virgin... totally out of choice... it's not like there haven't been guys in my life or that they weren't cute... it's just that i never felt it right with them... is it wrong to feel that way?? it's just that someone asked me today if i was still a virgin and i said yes... coz i had chosen it... but somehow that someone thought that 18 was high time to have lost my virginity... it's not like i'm going to go and have it out with some guy just coz i'm not supposed to be a virgin... coz this is my own choice... but i just want to know what you all think... i'm curious... do you also think that it's ok to lose my virginity??
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54 responses
8 Apr 07
In a lot of respects I cannot believe I am answering this question, but I am doing so on the basis that I know some people especially around your age worry about things like this to the extent that some people get depressed or worse about it. It is not wrong in any sense to be a virgin, at the end of the day, it is your body and your life and you are the one that determines what is right, acceptable and when you will share your love with someone. I am sure that there are many young people out there that wish that they did not "make love" with the first person that came along. Of course, often it's not making love at all. Love is a shared bond between two people, a deep and meaningful relationship, not a drunken fling. Do what is right at the right time for you, and easy as it is to say, do not feel pressured to do things just because other people do.
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@Erinlpx (179)
• United States
8 Apr 07
I think that you should do whatever you are comfortable with and not worry about what anyone else says or thinks. Losing your virginity is a big decision. You can't undo it once it's done and you want to make sure that you are completely and totally ready for it - in every way. You want to be physically, mentally and emotionally ready for this - not just do it for the sake of it. There's no such thing as "supposed" in this instance. It's a personal and individual choice, and shouldn't be dictated by what others say or do. So please, spend time thinking about this and make sure that whatever you do, it's what YOU want to do, and not just your friends pressuring you.
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• Bangalore, India
9 Apr 07
Nothing wrong to be virgin till the age of 50 also.....It is the individual choice......This will differ from person to person......Some will lose it at the age of fourteen....some will stay till their marriage...... Any way I congratulate you......Friends may tempt you....But it depends upon your self confidence......Wish you all the best....
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
mansibansal3, its never wrong to be a virgin by choice. it's the best choice you've ever made, preserve yourself for the one worthy of it... i mean, even if it sounds conservative, i wwould like my future husband to have my virginity, it's the rarest and most precious gift i could give him... pay no attention to those who tell you that it's high time you loose it... remember, you can be like time in a minute but they can never be like you ever. =)
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• Philippines
9 Apr 07
Hi there. I was a virgin until I got married. Just like you I chose to keep my virginity intact for the right person and not for any reason such as religion etc. I've always believed that the most precious gift I could give to my husband is me. Anyway going back to your topic, if you choose to be a virgin, then so be it. Don't let anybody in this world tell you that you should lose it or that you're too old or call you names. Stick to what you believe in because at the end of the day it wouldn't be them who would be happy or sad about your decision, it would be you. Don't lose it just because of peer pressure or whatever, do it for the same reason why you're keeping it. On a side note, my husband was also a virgin until we got married. I have to say that both of us have the same ideology on virginity and we treasure being each others' first. Goodluck.
@shila07 (514)
• Bhutan
9 Apr 07
Its good to know that you are still virgin. As nowadays girls loose their virginity within no time when they reach the age 12 and above. You are very good girl and should protect your virginit till you get married. NO you are right to be of that attitude because, you have right to choose a guy whom you like most and who is best among all. It depends on person to person. You are so positive girl. From my point of view, you should not loose your virginity till you decide your marriage. You give your virgin to a man with whom you are getting married. In our tradition, guys do not marry a girls who lost her virginity. Virginity is the best gift for your husband and to start you new life. So best wishes.
@User10 (82)
• United States
8 Apr 07
Only if you and only "you" decide that you want to. Definatley don't loose your virginity to a guy that is pressuring you to, because after he gets it more than likely he want be around anymore. At least let your experience of loosing your virginity be with someone you want, because if you do it for someone else and not for yourself, you will regret it. And even if your 21 and still a virgin that's o.k. your still young.
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@Bedient43 (250)
• United States
8 Apr 07
I think its totaly ok. I think that you should choose when you want it. Not told when your having it. I mean its ok if your scaredof deises or jsut not ready eyt.
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• Philippines
8 Apr 07
It's already a cliché nut i'll say it anyway.. It's ok for you to wait. there's nothing wrong for waiting for the right moment. You can only loose your virginity one. even if medical technology already have a process of recreating virginity, it will not be the same as your first. I'm a guy but i lost my virginity when i was 21. very old i presume,but i kept and lost it by choice and i didn't regret my decisions!
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• Canada
8 Apr 07
I know someone who is 30 and hasn't lost their virginity. There's nothing wrong with it at all. You're still young and have a lot more life to live, and plenty of time to find the right person. Don't worry about it.
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@bongQ78 (94)
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
yes its wrong to be a virgin
• India
9 Apr 07
whattttttttttt?????i am kind of really surprised by your answer!you shpuld have elaborated on this in detail as of why it is wrong to be a virgin!!!!!it is wrong to be a virgin????i am kind of shocked with this answer!i am shocked dude because you haven't explained yourself!!
@capssy07 (207)
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
Then your complete. I am once a victim of rape but I keep it myself for fifteen years. Those years no one know except God and me . As I grow on my teenage life I feel so incomplete. Part of me is not on me anymore and I never had a chance to say I am still virgin coz i lost in younger years and I lost it for nothing. I feel that I do not have something to offer great in my future husband except my heart. Too good you're still virgin you have one of the best part of you that you can offer to the one who deserves it. Goodluck!
@aznj50 (84)
• United States
9 Apr 07
Don't worry about it. Some people are late bloomers.
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
woah, uhm well there is nothing wrong if you're still a virgin if your age is 18 because its your own choice and for me the greatest thing you could ever give to the man you love so true is your virginity,, so don't be too curious ok?,,,
• India
9 Apr 07
who told you that. its not at all wrong, see it all depends upon you, what you want, want to be a virgin be a nirgin, thts all, life does nt run on wht others say, its ur and ur only. so do wht u like to do.
@beaniegdi (1966)
9 Apr 07
It's neither right or wrong but your choice. What would be wrong is doing something just for the sake of it or because someone else has said it is time you had done this. In life if you live by your own morals then you will not go too far wrong and your morals have so far told you the time has not been right. I would think differently if you had married and still not done it as that would mean you had some problem, but young and single then there is no problem at all in your choice. It is your body and no one else should influence what you do with it. I only have sons so I don't have this worry but I know if I had a daughter I would want her not to even go near any guys until she was ready to get married!
• Romania
9 Apr 07
I am 18 too and i think that u should wait until u will feel right! There is no such thing as a top age for being virgin, u can be virgin all your life if you choice so!
@cdv102 (132)
• United States
9 Apr 07
Yes, it's absolutely OK to still be a virgin. I was a lot older than you are when I lost mine and while I did sometimes feel left out or embarrassed since most people I know had already lost their's, I was ultimately really glad I waited. Especially since it's so much better when you're really ready and it's with someone you trust. When it's right, you'll know.
@rubiana6 (270)
• Brazil
9 Apr 07
being a virgin is not a question of wrong or right (at least if you are older than 18). Its a question of your personal preference. I myself never saw an advantage of being virgin as long as possible, for example to wait for mr right. If mr right comes one day, he will love you how you are, virgin or not. Anmd i also made the experience that men dont appreciate very much a girl with no experience in bed.
• India
9 Apr 07
There is nothing wrong being virgin at 18.I personally thinks it better to be virgin then to go in with wrong choice.I have a lot of friends who were virgin till they got married. Never go with any type of guy just to loose the tag of being virgin.
• India
9 Apr 07
it depends on u babes bytheway if i was wid u then i think u would have never asked this question as i am very helpin person and i can help u to loose ur virginity