Old flames - should you ever fan the fire?
By diablouk
@diablouk (598)
April 8, 2007 5:23pm CST
Today, out of the blue, an old boyfriend ogf mine turned up on my doorstep.
I'd not seen him for over 4 years and it was a big surprise. He came in, we sat and talked for a while and it soon became obvious to me that he was flirting.
He has recently split from his last partner and made it fairly obvious that he would like us to try again.
Given that I am very happily attached and about to marry my new partner, I made it quite clear that there was no chance that we could ever begin again.
I'm not sure how I would have reacted had I been single.
Our separation wasn't really accrimonious but was complicated; the reasons for that seperation no longer exist.
What would you have done in the circumstances? Would you ever try again?
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@Stiffler07 (1356)
• United States
8 Apr 07
"What lies behind us & what lie's before us are tiny matter compared to what lies within" .... Only you know what your heart is telling you. If I make a dicision to move on, that means I have givin it a lot of thought before doing so.So, with that being said, I don't look back. (Good Luck)
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@Stiffler07 (1356)
• United States
9 Apr 07
That's good to hear, I wish you & yours all the best!
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@4cuteboys (4099)
• United States
8 Apr 07
It sounds like you did exactly the right thing. You were nice, but made sure he knew that you were taken and not interested any longer. Good for you! If you were single if you felt ok to try again, that's okay. I wouldn't because I like to keep my ex's in the past, but everyone is different, and if the reasons for the seperation dont exist, I think it would have been ok to try again as long as there was still good feelings towards each other and a "spark"
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@diablouk (598)
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8 Apr 07
We parted as friends which was nice because I never thought of him as an enemy.
He had problems back then which he has resolved but realistically, we have both moved on and I have someone really important in my life now and I would not risk that relationship for anything
@sexyboypip (56)
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9 Apr 07
I am not sure how I would react. It would depend on how I felt for this person after all these years, obviously on what the reasons were for us parting in the first place and what my circumstances were now.
I know that I had a lover once who, when he left me, I would have done anything to get back. I don't remember how long that feeling lasted and I know I still think about him now. If he turned up now, I am not sure how I would react.
In your circumstances, I would have done the same though. If you are truly in love with your current boyfriend, then no one and nothing should ever come between you now
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