I wanna kill my family? Should I kill all of them ?? Do they deserve to live ???

@samrat16 (2442)
India
April 10, 2007 8:45am CST
This is not my problem, Problem of a person I know and he discussed something like this me : I wanna kill my family? I hate my familly. They dont want me to be happy. As a result being breed and raised by them I felt constantly painful and felt hesitant any choice to make me happy because to them will be like taboo . It is specially happening to me when I am happy face to them ,they always want to contracdict me ( i never did this to them) but whenever i am down they will suggest the things i told them i wanna do in the first place ( it has to do with their money too but considering they are not poor and really i rarely ask them anything ) Ok there are nothing wrong paying my own bill but consider since I was a child I never happy and abused emotionally, I really depressed insecure especiallly they don't treat all children equally. Now I know also source is from my elder sister, I hate her so much she is devil, I have hit her and it felt good, i wanna do it once more . but now i did not stay at that house anymore. ( what all you have for suggestion for him . I have suggested him its not right man. You are educated and have manner. so why you use these kind of thing. Parents are the very precious gift for god. Dont behave like this. You ignore them. Then your parents would realize that they are doing something wrong. Take it easy, every thing will be good and dont lose your patience. If you belive on God then every thing will be fine. Trust me. But he is not listening Is he a maniac or pschyo ? Should I leave him in condition he is right now )
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@Debs_place (10551)
• United States
10 Apr 07
If your friend is an adult and working then he should grow up and start his own life. It is in his control to do this. He can't change the past, he should just grow up and move on. Many people were unhapppy as children because of what their parent's did. As adults it is their choice. Killing is not an option!
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@samrat16 (2442)
• India
10 Apr 07
I have tried a lot to make him understand that this won't help him. But he is not ready to listen to anything and may be I think he needs to goto mental hospital or he will be in jail soon. I think of telling his parents too so that they should be safe too.
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@KarenO52 (2952)
• United States
10 Apr 07
He should move away and start a life of his own. Eventually he might come to appreciate his family. He's blaming them for all of his unhappiness, something which he should be responsible for.
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@samrat16 (2442)
• India
10 Apr 07
I agree with you and trust that he will be alright if he moves away . Many a times I think it's me who is giving him lot of importance which he doesn't deserves. May be he will learn all by himself. But if he does something wrong ?? this scares me .
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• United States
10 Apr 07
My goodness that is a very sad dialogue. My father has a lot of anger and bitterness about the past and I think that you first have to love yourself before you can love others. The fact that this person hates them and wants to kill them is a sign of some very serious and deep issues. You shouldn't hate anyone, but rather the actions or words people use, and definitely not want to kill someone. I think this person needs a lot of help & God's love.
@samrat16 (2442)
• India
10 Apr 07
I agree with you that everybody need to love him/herself to get over all bitterness in life. It's like we should judge ourself before judging anybody else. May be I'm giving him more importance and as he sees somebody taking interest he just want to get more in topic discussions. Yes, this person need some help and is mentally ill.
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• United States
10 Apr 07
I would tell him the jail is waiting for his as* and that it is time for him to grow the hell up and stop thinking and acting like a kid. Tell him there is a padded room waiting for him. That he needs mental help he could move or just not talk to him. But hey taht is a man for you.
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@samrat16 (2442)
• India
10 Apr 07
Yes, definately, his next stop is jail only. I have tried to make him understand this lot of times but he is not trying to understand. I'm really fed up of this stuff and want to kick his as* as you told. May be he will understand one day. God help him .
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@Damacoy (65)
• Philippines
11 Apr 07
Tell your friend that killing his family will not solve his problem... hence would worsen the situation. he would definitely end up in jail... and that is worst. he cant do things he likes or used to do. he is forced to work, he cant choose what he wants to eat. that would be the scenario it he ends up in jail. he has to admit he has done something wrong thats why things are not going his way. if he wants to have a peaceful life and want to earn their respect and trust... he has to admit his mistakes and ask for forgiveness from his family. may be he also lack guidance from God. He should pray.... pray hard... pray from his heart... and believe that a miracle will happen.
@karvin87 (1034)
• India
11 Apr 07
hey, i think what you said is perfectly fine. Its very nice of you to be so concern about your friend. I feel, no matter how parents behave , we are on this earth because of them and if we cannotl ove them we should not hate them either! i feel your explanation was perfctly fine...time melts all distance, with time may be they understand their wrong attitude towards there son... Dont leave your frnd, after all he has had faith in you and has therefore disclosed this to you, help him, he needs support...he will surely come out of this in a while.
@vicky19810 (1601)
• China
11 Apr 07
oh my god,friend,why does he think so?do no be impulsive so much.and i believe that everything is ok,and all the matter can be settled soon.i can not believe why there are so many family matters recently.
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@arkentos (213)
• India
11 Apr 07
Be sensible man.You are a grown man.stop behaving like child anymore.your parents are expecting more from you,they are not taking you as a child anymore and your behavior are like a kid.So there has to have a clash.So try to live up to their expectation a bit.just a bit.you will definitely see change in their behavior.after all they are your family member.some never has family,you have that.Dont loose it like that.
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• Canada
10 Apr 07
Hrmmm, he sounds severely disturbed, and yes, maybe he has mental problems. If his life has been as bad as he says it has, then I would think that contributed to it, but it sounds as though he's always been a little unbalanced so to speak. I wouldn't leave him in the state he's in until you are sure he's not going to do anything. You need to tell him that acting like a child and uttering threats like the ones he has are going to get him in a whole lot of trouble. You should tell him that he needs to grow up and stop ranting and raving like a mad man or he's going to get his a*s kicked. If you don't do it, someone else will.
• United States
10 Apr 07
oh no.What kind of person he is? I couldn't imagine wanna kill his own family.So pathetic.Definately he need some help.
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• United States
10 Apr 07
I cannot how can one be so fed up of his family. This shows he is frustrated. He must discuss this problem with his family and if no favorable solution comes out then he should stay away from his family for a while as someone else suggested. If he is right then their family will realize the fact and vice versa.
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• India
10 Apr 07
samrat u are making me mad. i think this person is mentally ill becouse of the condition he is in. i dont think u should live this person in this condition as he can do any thing. i suggest u to take him to a psychiatrist. if he doesn't like to go there then dont force him. ask him to go for a vacation.
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@whyaskq (7553)
• Singapore
11 Apr 07
I would not suggest you leave him in the condition he is in. I think he needs counselling. Bring him to a counsellor, or at least visit a psycharist. These people are in a better position to gauge and advise the best course of action for him.
@j27366 (294)
• Philippines
11 Apr 07
i think the only resort he can do is leave that house and live on his own since he can afford it. to commit a crime does not solve his problem; it will just worsen the situtation.
@drilyas (843)
• Pakistan
11 Apr 07
is he mad or what?no bosy want to kill his/her family
@subathra (3519)
• India
11 Apr 07
I think this person is under extreme frustration with his family members.these kinds of anger will definitely result bad.He needs a treatment immediate otherwise its him who will suffer the consequences.he will loose his future too. I have read so many news in papers with reference to one family member brutally killing all other home people irrespective of age from old to young ones.After this incident they give the verdict as they feel happy after killing them or they never speak a word and say i dont know what i did.Sounds strange when a family member react with his own members in this way. But the family members are also to be blamed as they are responsible for this person to talk like this.Either they should change themselves by giving him love and care which is utmost needed for this person now specially from those people.Medicines or words from others will do little but kind words & affection from his home people is what he needs right now.
• Israel
11 Apr 07
This is terrible!!! Noone should think of killing his family. Noone should think of killing anyone! If he is a grown man, I sujest he will carry on with his life, and make them see he succeeds without them and without their advice. That way, if there is any "evil" in them (a thing which I pretty much doubt), that "evil" will suffer from jelousy. This is "good" revenge - you are doing the best you can and succeed in good ways, and people who wish you harm are being "hurt" by it, only because of their bad nature of wanting you to lose. But harming others the way your friend wants to do is bad, will help in nothing but makes your friend worse than the family he so hates. That makes me think who is to blame in this? Maby your friend was always that aggressive and that is why his family treats him like that? If your friend presists in these thoughts - if any grown man presists in such thoughts - you should turn to proffesional aid or maby even the police.
• China
11 Apr 07
You really need a good talk with him.Please just be patient.A lot of things will infulence your life and I hope we can forget all bad things which will make your life better.We need to learn forget.
@kathy77 (7488)
• Australia
10 Apr 07
Oh this particular person is very sick and needs help from mental health society, just because they feel this way does not give him the right to take another life. I would take your friend to receive the help that they need to progress in their lives and not destory not only their life but the life of others.
@eyewitness (1580)
• Netherlands
10 Apr 07
He's not a maniac or psycho,but he doesn't know what to do that will make them accept him. You should never leave his side.Go and talk to him.Tell him that he shouldn't kill his family not only because it ain't right but it will not solve the problem.Ket him focus on the future i life without them and without killing them. Because when he's old enough he can go settle down on his own and he never have to see them ever again. So try to talk to him about it.And let him please focus on the future,because his future will be better.He just need to go through this till he's out of there.It will stop in the end,but don't let him do things he will regret they are not worth it. I hope your friend will be fine.I'llpray for that.