husbands working overtime. good or bad?

@Zorrogirl (1481)
South Africa
April 10, 2007 11:20am CST
When your husband works overtime, does it frustrate you, or are you just glad about the extra money? for me its both. we live a comfortable life just because of the extra money but i miss my husband. i dont know how to spend more quality time with him as we are quite tired when we eventually see each other.
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9 responses
3 Jul 07
He needs to find some time with you.You should try and sit him down and let him know that work and no play makes jack a dull boy.Money is very good,but you need your husband's attention and love too
@Zorrogirl (1481)
• South Africa
3 Jul 07
a lot has changed since i wrote this. my hubby has decided to find another job for times sake. he only works one or 2 weekends a month. its so much better. but we miss the extra money. but the time is worth so much more.
@darkzzt (760)
• Canada
10 Apr 07
i would say it is good for your husband to be making extra money but make sure he spends time with you too, at least once in a while. if you are strapped for cash then the overtime is good. you would not be able to live so comfortably otherwise.
@Zorrogirl (1481)
• South Africa
10 Apr 07
i wish there were a way he wouldnt work so much overtime but the nature of his work makes him on call 24 hours a day. we try to get out of town one weekend a month with or without our daughter just to keep a balance. but lately it seems that its not enough.
@creematee (2810)
• United States
10 Apr 07
My DH is salary, so he doesn't receive OT pay. It really stinks, though, because he does end up putting about 12-15 hours a day in at the office. He goes in 1 hour early, and stay 3-4 hours late, just to get his daily work done. He has so many meetings during the day that he just doesn't have time to work at his desk. We've just learned to live with it, I guess. If he works late during the week, we still get to keep him on the weekends. Our "quality" time is spent on the phone--when he leaves the office to tell me he's on the way home. We talk about the day, what we did, and try to get everything in before he hits a shallow spot and we lose connection. The whole conversation is about 5 min. long. When he gets home, the kids dominate his time until he's asleep at 9 pm. Makes me really love those weekends! :)
@creematee (2810)
• United States
29 May 07
Thank you for the BR. :) I Hope that you and your hubby are getting the quality time that you both need. Wishing you the best!! :)
@fly_shay (333)
• Philippines
1 Jul 07
For me it's ok as long as not all the time.We need our partner to be with us all the time.It's a good feeling if he's there with you and you can share your thoughts and things that happened to you to him huh?Though we can't do away with the overtime thing since we have to have extra income also.
@sunshine4 (8709)
• United States
10 Apr 07
For some reason, my husband and I get along great when he is working:) I love it when he gets overtime! We just built our home 2 years ago and are still trying to catch up on paying for the extra expenses that occured during construction. My husband works overtime almost every week. When he has a day off it is more precious time for us to spend together.
@cjthedog64 (1553)
• United States
10 Apr 07
I don't mind when DH works OT because I'm usually doing the same thing I would have been doing - staying home with DS. He doesn't like to do it much because it's hard work and ends up stressing him out on most days. Occasionally he'll get a quick easy job and it'll be fine, but if it's causing him a lot of BS to deal with, I'm ok with him refusing the OT.
@bcote212 (1113)
• United States
10 Apr 07
It can be quite frustrating. Right now I am the "bread winner" in my family, and I feel bad because my parter really wants to bring in his share of the money. I think that he feels like I judge him because he makes less. The poor guy worked 96 hours last week just to make what I make in 40. I wish he was around more, but I know that he really wants to make money.
• United States
10 Apr 07
It is definately frustrating for me but the extra money comes in handy. He usually works about 65 hours a week so we like never see him but I appreciate all the hard work that he does to take care of our family. We have a special needs child that requires 24 hour skilled care so I am unable to work at this point. Overtime is how we survive! But I still miss him.
@lightningMD (5932)
• United States
10 Apr 07
right now we really need the money so overtime is great...but i do miss my husband when he is away so much...i'll go sit in the bathroom and talk with while he showers or even join him just to have a few extra minutes together