Love triangles, or in this case square........

@magikrose (5424)
United States
April 11, 2007 7:42am CST
I know someone who is married. She has 2 friends that she has had a friends with benefits relationship with in the past. One of the guys recently moved bact to town(Jay) with his wife and newborn and is going to be living with the other guy that she had the friends with benefits relationship with(Wil), he is married and with kids as well. Wil she has known since 2nd grade, Jay she has only known for about 8yrs. She went to visit Wil for the first time in years and he wants to have a relationship with her again. So does Jay, along with the fact that she is also married. She loves all 3men very much but is totally confused. Any one have any advise I can give her. I am stumped and have no clue what to say to her.
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@vokey9472 (1489)
• United States
11 Apr 07
Unless she wants to get a divorce and possibly lose her kids, DO NOT DO IT!! She will end up hurting her husband, the wives of the other two men and ruining the lives of all the children involved. Is she really that selfish?
@magikrose (5424)
• United States
11 Apr 07
she is far from selfish. She has not done anything with the other 2 men except talk to them. Nothing physical has happened that I know of or that she has revealed to me. That is why I am asking for advice. She knows the right thing to do but at the same time she really does care about these other guys.
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@brokentia (10396)
• United States
11 Apr 07
But does she care enough to end her current marriage? Does one of them care enough to end their marriage/relationship? If not, then they are just wanting to see if they will get a walk down the memory lane with benefits. LOL And that will just lead to many getting hurt and possibly ending relationships that do not want to be ended.
@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
16 Apr 07
i would say that she give it a try if she is so confuse. so, she would know what to do when shew is already in relationship with the three men. if yu tell her what to do or not what to do , she will only be confuse because she really wants to do it . so, let her be and she will soon find out the answer soon enough. i am not joking .
• United States
12 Apr 07
well i do not know what to tell you because i am not a good advise person. before i can give advise i need to clean up my back yard first.i can tell you this though she needs to take time out for herself and try to way the prous and the cons. like what is keeping her with her husband and it can not be for the kids either? what these other men have that her husband does not have and what can these other men ofer that her husband can not. i can not tell you what my BEST FRIEND had told me because she is not thier yet but tell her that what ever decision that she makes god will not punish her for the right or wrong decision that she makes.she needs to keep her head up and to take one day at a time. god will give her the right answer and guide her down the right road. i promise you that. if she needs someone to talk to then please have her im me and i will be more than happy talk with her .
@brokentia (10396)
• United States
11 Apr 07
Either get a divorce or be faithful to her husband. Not only would she be ruining her marriage...but the marriage of the other men as well. That is just not cool! One can not truly be in love with 3 men at once. If she thinks she is, then she needs to figure out what love really is. Until then, she needs to be faithful to her vows...because she promised when she said her vows. When she knows what she wants, then she can follow through with her actions. But messing with another's marriage too...that is just wrong. How would the other wife feel?