men and secrets
By chickangel
@chickangel (161)
United States
April 11, 2007 8:54am CST
Why do men keep secrets? He'd be online and when the girlfriend walks by he is closeing the windows? And when they have a IM flash they ask you to go get them something...OK I seen the orange light I know you have a message..as soon as my head turns to get it for him "click..typing" I come back "click" window closed. Whats up with that? If I am talking to some-one online I tell him who I talked to especialy if I talk to a man I let him know so he knows I'm not hiding anything. He cames by and he'll look at my screen when I'm on...I don't close the window in fact I turn it so he can see. I have nothing to hide...makes me wonder if he does. I know he has cheated on me in the past and he met the girls on line at a dating site...I have forgive'n him and tried not to hold it against him I don't bring it up things like that...am I right to wonder or am I just being to emotional? he don't give me a reason to think he is cheating he comes straight home and we're together on the weekends...only thing I don't like is the being secretive on the computer.
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@coconutpatty (834)
• United States
11 Apr 07
I guess I could see this going either way. He could be cheating or doing something he knows that you would not approve of. OR he could just be trying to keep things to himself. But I really feel like he is up to no good. The vibes I get aren't right. The fact that you are so open and honest about what you do online and his utter secretive behavior bothers me. I think you need to have a little chat with him. See how that goes. And maybe check out the sites he's been viewing. I wish you luck!
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@chickangel (161)
• United States
11 Apr 07
Thanks, your right I do need to get him to sit down with me and talk about this...I just need to find a way of bring it up so don't think that is because I don't trusting him ...but he makes me wonder with his actions.
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@coconutpatty (834)
• United States
17 Apr 07
Exactly! That;s usually the hardest part. And sometimes us girls are far more honest with what we do. Guys tend to keep it to themselves. I think it could also have something to do with the fact that many guys hold back their emotions. They are just a bit less open than us girls. Good luck!!
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@Augustta (1850)
• Poland
20 Apr 07
Well,depends...but men mind can be very strange...is not neccesarely he cheating you,but maybe he is afraide you will be very jealous if he look at nice girls...I stoped to be jealous on those things...i know he love me and i can look at nice men also...lol...
A easy way to make him understand you don't like is to not be jealous and to make same with him...if he stop when you enter in room,ok,you stop when he come near you,but leting him to see that you was looking at some men body...ha ha..with me work very well...
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@chickangel (161)
• United States
20 Apr 07
LOL...Thats a good idea. I should try that one some day. :P
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
11 Apr 07
i hate to say it but he's cheating. he may not be currently meeting the girls he's talking to online, but if hes done it before... what he's doing is exactly what i was doing once upon a time. my husband and i were having problems and i started talkig to this other guy online. i did the exact same thing. i never met the guy in person though because i decided it wasn't something i wanted to do...but what i was doing was having an emotional affair..which is what your boyfriend is doing. and if he's cheated before and he's doing this now, i'd say chances are hes going to cheat on you again. and even if he never actually meets someone..do you really want him telling other girls online what he wants to do to them? i think you should leave him and get someone who shows you more respect.
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@chickangel (161)
• United States
11 Apr 07
I feel like he is what he is but I can't prove it. He has done that before I found out from one of his friends last year...even talked to the girl she confermed...he husband sent me some email chain just enough to prove but not to much cuz i was 6mo pregnate at the time I found out but that was going on for 6mos..that was all online talk and never got to that point cuz she found out about me and didn't meet him. I found out right after having the baby he was sleeping with a girl he met on line she told me in an email. He swares he not doing it anymore...and begged for another chance for the baby. I told him I find out he looking for some-one, attempting to be with some-one or does cheat...me and the baby will be gone. he swares he not.
@mrsbrian (1949)
• United States
11 Apr 07
Well he must be hiding something. just because he comes straight home from work dosnt mean he isnt cheating on you thru the internet.i would not trust this person, and I would be doing dome further invistagting when he isnt home.
@chickangel (161)
• United States
11 Apr 07
I wouldn't know how to investigate. I always find out about it by the other girl and his friends.
