Do you find you are more protective of a premature born child?

April 11, 2007 3:10pm CST
Do you think you are more protective over your premature born little one then your other children? Does the difficult start they had make that you worry more about them?
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• Canada
11 Apr 07
i've only had a preemie so i'm not sure if i'd be less over protective of a full term than a new born but i had a doctor that scared us about everything. she kept saying don't take your baby anywhere cause she is a preemie (born at 27 weeks). then she would say no one could come over. this was like for a year she wanted us to live at home in a bubble. i said how will she ever build up an imune system staying locked up in her room. i took her out when i needed to go somewhere. i lived my life. she was over 12 months by the time she got her first cold so i think i did the right thing. so anyway. i was overprotective at first cause she was a preemie but it didn't last long. i remember because she was in such a clean germ free environment at the NICU and we'd half to wash her hands before touching her, for the first week of people comming to see her at home i had hand sanitizer for people. lol
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11 Apr 07
Hospitals do have the habit of advising such things but I never kept to it either. My lil one is now a healthy almost 3 year old and as far as illnesses go the worst he's had so far is a fever and a few colds. Guess part of the over protectiveness might have to do with having lost a lil one before.
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@MJJ1011 (107)
• United States
12 Apr 07
My daughter was 8 weeks premature. She is now 6 months old, and I am finally starting to get over the paranoia of her getting sick. She was born in October, and her pediatrician basically told us to stay in for the winter and to make sure she got all of her Synegis shots. He was very concerned about RSV. I kept her in the house for a good 2 months before I finally started going crazy and had to get out a bit. Lately I've been taking her to the grocery store and the mall, and I've been alot more relaxed about it. Over the Easter weekend I even had her around little kids for the first time. Then yesterday she started getting sick for the first time ever. Now I'm back to a little bit of paranoia again. I hope I'm not always going to be like this, and I don't know if I'll be the same way after having a second child. Does anyone have any advice for how to get over this constant worry and overprotectiveness?
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12 Apr 07
I have always believed that exposing them to a certain amount of 'bugs' by being among other children etc helps them build up a resistance. My little one is now almost three and so far only had some colds and a fever. He is likely to get colds but he hasnt yet picked up anything more serious. I used to take him to baby and toddler groups and by now he is in nursery/day care so constantly among other children. I think over time you get less paranoid, but I am still protective over him. Maybe also because he is my only one and I lost one before.
@KissThis (3008)
• United States
13 Apr 07
My daughter was born with a serious heart condition and a few other defects. The first year I had her I was very careful because I knew she was living on borrowed time. She would have to several surgeries before she turned a year old. I believe that because of her medical needs her first two years of life I did give her extra specail care. I now treat all my children as equals. My daughter still has some special needs but we don't give her special treatment because of this.
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• United States
11 Apr 07
I only have one child, who was born a preemie. However, I don't think I was overly protective of him and I'm definitely not overly protective now that he's older (almost three) now. Sure, I was and am protective, as his mother, and as a first-time mother but I wasn't and am not overly particular about germs and the like.
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@ShyBear88 (16865)
• United States
1 Feb 16
I'm the same amount of protectiviness with all of my babies. My oldest two where preemies and I spent 2 weeks in preterm labor with my second but I spend 12 weeks with having contractions nearly every day all day with my last baby. I love them all and I look out from them all.
@SUMM3R (18)
• United States
18 Dec 07
I think to some point i feel more drawn to my preemie. I feel like i was cheated that first month after he was born because he was in the hospital and that i didnt get to have that bonding time. I always worry about him when i am not with him. I jump whenever he falls and am always keeping an eye on what he is doing.