Sleeping problems with my 3 month old baby girl.

Philippines
April 11, 2007 10:04pm CST
I wonder why my baby doesn't sleep straight at night? She sleeps soundly for about an hour and wake-up crying. She can only sleep long hours if you hold her in your arms. Why is that? Do you experience the same problems?
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@ricknkae (1721)
• United States
12 Apr 07
well at 3 months very few babies sleep through the night Your baby wakes up because babies have sleep cycles that last around an hour, so she wakes up but normally she should find how to go back to sleep by herself Try to make her feel secure - like in your arms - maybe use a shirt that you worn so she can have your odor or leave a night light or a blankie ... Don't try to force your baby to sleep through the baby if she wakes uo hungry feed her ... but other wise try to comfort her in her bed instead of picking her up ... like, be there but leave her in the crib so she can feel secure in her crib Dont worry she is still young Good luck
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• Philippines
12 Apr 07
thanks a lot. I will do what you suggest.
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@ricknkae (1721)
• United States
16 Apr 07
Hope it helps ... but don't think you can spoil your baby that young ... if he cries for you she needs something ... and you being there makes her feel comforted and will give her self-confidence later Babies under 6 months are NOT trying to manipulate you but trying to communicate with you ... so listen to her and I wish you both all the best
• United States
12 Apr 07
My first baby was a lot like that. Not only would I have to hold her snuggly in my arms, I had to be standing and bouncing the entire time. The doctor thought hers might be gas. I don't really know about that. It was very frustrating for both my husband and myself and both our backs and nerves were about shot. We would give her the Mylecon drops for the gas, but that didn't help much either. Sometimes I felt like she had too full a stomach and couldn't get situated comfortably. She finally grew out of it...Thank God. But I feel your pain.
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• Philippines
12 Apr 07
yes. I am quite worried coz she sleeps fine during day time but at night time she just can't sleep sound.
• Philippines
15 Feb 08
we called the gas as "abdominal colic". it is normal for a baby even he reaches the age of 2 that he will experience this sensation in the stomach. you will know it by tapping with your finger the tummy and you will hear a tympanitic sound because of too much swallowed air during bottle feeding. what i do is, after burping the baby after he feeds, i allowed him to lay on his tummy, and eventually you will hear him fart that will lessen the air or gas inside his tummy. and another thing that will help is to massage his tummy from the umbilicus going downwards with the help of warm oil.
• Philippines
13 Apr 07
Luckily, I didn't experience that with my first-born son. He usually cries only when hungry or when he does not feel well. But I've heard there are children who cries a lot. And I've also read that babies are prone to colic, a condition in babies which cannot be helped with medication. There is nothing to worry about it though, because it will just go away. Maybe your baby is experiencing colic, that's why she has a problem in sleeping and cries most of the time.
• Philippines
15 Feb 08
when my baby cries what i do is to let them hear me say "mommy is here" and it put them backs to sleep. another tip is i massage their body while about to sleep and sing them a lullaby while doing it.babies need to be feel secure that's they cry to let us know that they need us not only to feed or comfort them, but secured and loved. i think hearing their mom's voice assures them that they can sleep tightly.
@Gemmygirl1 (2867)
• Australia
1 May 07
Try wrapping her as tightly as possible before putting her in her bed - i know not everyone is for it but a pacifier/dummy can help the situation - it worked wonders for my daughter, if she woke up, she'd just start sucking on it & fall back to sleep. You could try a night light but my daughter didn't start needing something like that until we moved her in to a cot & in her own room which was at 6 months. I don't think any 3 month old sleeps all night it's a little early but wait another month or so & you'll find she'll be better. I had our daughter in her routine by 4 1/2 months old (which was also the time she started with solids), she'd be in bed by 8:30pm & she'd wake between 7am & 8:30am - occasionally waking once for a feed in the middle of the night but it didn't last long. She's been sleeping solidly without the middle of the night feeds since maybe 5 - 5 1/2 months. It will get easier, i promise & with the whole only sleeping for an hour, that could possibly be wind/gas - if she's like my daughter was, she could never seem to get it all up & i had to resort to a liquid thing that brought the wind up - it was from a company named Brauer & they are all natural - safe for babies & nursing mothers, they have EVERYTHING! Good Luck!
• Australia
1 May 07
Someone else suggested co-sleeping. I wouldn't recommend that - only for 1 reason, it's a hard habit to get the kid out of & it can go on for MANY years. You don't really want a 6-7 year old not being able to sleep in their room to be still sharing a bed with you do you???
13 Apr 07
When in the womb babies get rocked to sleep by movement of the mum, they are connected to you, they hear your heartbeat and feel you. When they are born this changes. Many babies love being held and will sleep well that way. For some the rocking movement is what helps to others its smelling their mum or hearing their mums heartbeat. There are dolls that have heatbeat/womb sounds in them that can be used in a crib or cot. It can help to put a blanket with baby that has your smell on (sleep with the blanket yourself first). It can help to have a rocking crib. To me its never been a problem that my son liked to sleep on my chest. I would let him fall asleep like that and put him in the crib. Often I would just put my hand on his tummy for a while after putting him down to let him feel mummy was still there.
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• United States
30 Apr 07
Perhaps you could move your child to your bed. I tried to keep my first child in her own bed and she NEVER slept, so I eventually brought her to bed with us and we all slept great. With my second, I shared our bed from the beginning and just recently moved her to her own bed with no problems. She is four months old and sleeps in her own crib all through the night! Sometimes having a little one in your bed is WAY BETTER than never getting any sleep.
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• Philippines
5 May 07
oh yes. My baby is been sleeping with me in bed just like my eldest. We have one big bed to accomodate both of them. But i plan to have a separate room for my eldest who is 3 years old now. It's time for him to have his own room now.
• United States
30 Apr 07
Babies don't sleep soundly through the night untill they are around 6 to 8 months old usually. As for why she sleeps long periods in your arms is because like in the womb she can hear your heart and it makes her feel comfortable and it makes her at ease and she'll sleep. My nephew was the same way when he was born and he would be fussy when he got tired and the only way you could get him to quiet down was to hum to him while holding him against your chest so that he could hear your heart.
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@mememama (3076)
• United States
12 Apr 07
Have you tried cosleeping? I think it's great for the baby and you will get more sleep. I really like this site www.askdrsears.com for parenting tips, I don't work for them so don't worry it's not spam ;) This link here has a lot of great on sleeping http://www.askdrsears.com/html/7/T070100.asp I know it's easy for me to say that they will sleep through the night, I've got a 1 1/2 year old and am mostly rested, not walking around in rooms wondering what the heck I came in them for. Trust me I know how it is to not get sleep from being kept awake by a baby. But when they are ready, they will sleep through the night. Most mothers can remember that first night of rest like it's a milestone!
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• Philippines
13 Apr 07
You are right about that! I just have my first long sleep last night. Its my first time for the last 3 months but more so i am just glad that my baby is okay. Thanks for that website. I will surely check that one.
@wachit14 (3595)
• United States
30 Apr 07
Your baby is becoming dependent on being held for a deep sleep. In order to break her of the habit, you will need to console her for a short period of time and return her to her crib or bassinet. She will indeed cry for a time, and you can stand over her and continue to console her, but if you keep holding her to get her to sleep, she will continue to cry when she is in her crib.
@kuting (885)
• Philippines
17 Apr 07
i think some babies would just like to be cuddled and feel and smell their moms. my baby was very much like this until now. he sleeps only half the night and is usually awake from 2am upto 6 am when he would start to be sleepy again. he would sleep confortably lying on lis stomach on top of me. but i usually could breath becuase he's becoming really heavy now. im hoping that soon my baby would also outgrow this habit.
• Philippines
5 May 07
same with my baby. She usually wakes up around 12 midnight and go back to sleep at 4 in the morning! It is so tiring but all that is gone when i see my baby smiles and coos a lot.
• Australia
1 May 07
Not sure if you know this or not but they recommend you DONT put your babies to sleep on their tummies - there's a higher risk of sids with them sleeping that way - you should always lay them on their backs.
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• United States
12 Apr 07
Some babies really benefit from being swaddled snugly when put to bed at night. Then, when they wake up, it is a similar feeling to being held. Being able to move too freely and flail about may actually frighten some babies and cause them to cry. You figure, the baby spends 9 months in a small space - the openness can be hard for some of them to get used to. My youngest was one of these - he needed to be swaddled well to be able to sleep without being held. He outgrew it at about 5 months.
• Philippines
13 Apr 07
Glad to hear that from you. I was just worried coz i thought something is wrong with her. I didn't experience this with my eldest. Thanks a lot!
@faythlyn (94)
• United States
12 Apr 07
Three months old is really too early to expect a baby to sleep through the night. My son is 8 months old and still wakes up 2+ times a night. All I can suggest for now is swaddling. Later, when she is 4 or 5 months...maybe even 6, you might try sleep training. There are many different methods, so research and pick the one that's best for you. Try to set aside a 2-3 week time period and be consistent with whatever method you pick! We've started the Cry it out method...kind of. I dont leave my poor baby is his room to just cry himself to sleep, I sit in his room with him. When we started he was sleeping 1 hour at a time, and now we've got him to 3 or 4 hours at a time usually. Last night he slept 5 hours straight, and I feel so amazing today.
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• Philippines
13 Apr 07
yes I love it too when i know my baby can sleep soundly that is why sometimes i even hold her in my arms for straight 3 to 4 hours just so she can sleep straight too but last night i am so happy. She woke up a couple of times just for her feeding and then she goes back straight to sleep!
• United States
1 May 07
ha, sounds like my daughter. The only way she'll sleep is in our bed. She's almost 1 now and wont sleep without me.. I dont mind it though!
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