What's your attitude towards a person who backbites?

backbite - backbite is abhorrent
China
April 12, 2007 8:42am CST
Have you ever met a person who always like to backbite?I don't think I am that kind of person. Speaking ill of others behind one's back is such an abhorrent deed that most of people don't like.I have met a person,who is my math and head teacher when I was in senior middle school,once spoke ill of me behind my back in order to make my bf and I break up.Although she might be for the benefit of me,(bacause she thought that getting along with a boy who is not good at study would ruin my own study)I still got very very angry when I knew that she had spoken ill of me in front of my bf.I mad at her so much that I nearly couldn't stand her at all at that time.She was my teacher afer all,so I kept silent about this matter at last.This matter happend more than three years ago,I know she was really for me,however,I still don't think what she had done to me is a good way to help me.What's your opinion about it?What do you think of people who backbites?What is your attitude towards them?
2 responses
12 Apr 07
You can never change another person's behaviour or attitude. The best you can do is to protect yourself - get this person out of your life, distance yousrelf from them as much as you can and be open with anyone that he or she may have gossiped to. People like this rarely pick on just one persone to 'snipe' at. They usually pick on others as well. Whether this person had your best interests at heart is irrelevant - she could have come and spoken to you 'face to face'. After this length of time - three years - I would suggest moving on with your life. Best of luck.
@riyasam (16578)
• India
12 Apr 07
i would keep a stoic silence.maybe clear it up with my bf.but thats the way how it is.you cant change another person.