How do you know if you've fallen in love?

@ninong (110)
Philippines
April 12, 2007 11:34am CST
How does one really know that he has moved from the "like" stage to the "love" stage? Other people are hard to understand, because we can't even really understand ourselves. But for you, how do you determine that you have already fallen in love with another person?
7 responses
• Philippines
13 Apr 07
Sometimes it is really very hard to distinguish the difference between love , infatuation and lust. All of these has mutual attachments and all are two way process. I guess if you want a relationship to last forever, it is love and a true love. I you want to spend a lifetime with the person. It is true love. If you could accept the person for what he is, his flaws, his limitations and all of him. Its love.
• Philippines
13 Apr 07
love? well i can say if i'm falling in love with a girl, when i can accept all things about her! even if it's negative or positive, and if i can surrender my self to her!
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• India
12 Apr 07
You cringe when you see the person. You ask yourself,"Good God, what have I done?" For the first time, you see the person as he or she really is. Once you thought she had a beautiful complexion. Now you see that her skin is sallow & pockmarked. Her lovely legs now look like they belong on an old billiard table. Her shiny radiant hair now looks like upholstery stuffing. That small cavity on one of her front teeth was scarcely noticeable; now you can't take your eyes off of it. You never noticed before that one of her eyes seems to function independently of the other. Things that once seemed charming or endearing are now annoying. You used to love her rambling convoluted stories about her days as a cheerleader; now you gnash your teeth as you suffer through them. That clever pet name she had for you now makes you wince. You wonder why she wears that same tattered dress so often. That pleasing musical laugh that made you smile now sounds like a car alarm. These are examples of subtle indications that you have fallen out of love. If you inexplicably "fell out" of love, you probably were never in love, just infatuated. Unless this is the 20th time, it's nothing to feel bad about. It happens all the time. It doesn't necessarily mean you're shallow or immature. You (gently) dump her and move on. That sounds cruel but you could just as easily be the dumpee. Dumping, getting dumped, are part of life. There are worse things, such as being possessive, jealous, controlling, or abusive all in the name of love. It's all too easy to fall in love when you set your mind to it. Being in love is lots of fun. It beats being alone and lonely all the time. It's tempting to force the issue. When things happen too quickly, however, there is a chance you'll "fall out" of love
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@carlena1 (120)
• United States
12 Apr 07
I think about them constantly. I start planning our future together in my head. And of course- those butterflies!
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@barnkinney (1343)
• Philippines
12 Apr 07
for me, it would be when i start seeking to pleaset the person. i consider his welfare a lot. i mostly think of things good for him than for myself. and i want him to be constantly happy, even it would cost my own, because i would be glad when he is.
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• United States
12 Apr 07
When I was younger I asked my mom this very question. She told me 'you just know.' That confused me so I asked my dad and he told me 'you know you're in love when you can fart in front of the other person and not be embarassed.' Lol...I guess both are kinda true.
@Chryssi (828)
• United States
12 Apr 07
I think that you know you're in love when you don't want to be away from the other person, even for a minute, because they make you so happy. You can't imagine your life without them. You'd do anything, and I do mean anything for them. For me, that's how I know I'm in love.