What do think about shy people ?

United States
April 12, 2007 11:38am CST
How could they overcome their shyness. What specific things could they do.
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@simran1430 (1793)
• India
12 Apr 07
Practise becoming fascinated by other people. Ask them about themselves, and concentrate when they answer you. Remember what they tell you about themselves so you can talk about it later, or on another occasion.It is my personal opinion that social phobia is too often diagnosed where people are simply experiencing natural shyness. It is perfectly natural to be a little timid in a situation where you don't yet know the 'rules', or what to do. In fact, most people experience some degree of nerves when, say going to meet friends, especially if it is somewhere they haven't been before, or someone new will be there.We have to be very careful not to assume that there is something wrong with this. Social nerves are natural, as long as they don't get out of hand. Focusing on them and making them into a 'big thing' will only make matters worse.
@mari610 (360)
• United States
12 Apr 07
It's not so much what shy people can do to overcome their shyness,it's more important for what others can do to help them overcome this. If you know anyone who is really shy and unable to socialize with others, I think you should reach out to this person and try to make them comfortable by telling them that it's ok to be shy and complimenting them,such as, pointing out their different qualities,how nice you think they are or how nice they look and how you want to get to know them better. This makes a shy person more confident amd more able to reach out to others. Everyone,especially shy people need people in their lives, whether it be family,friends,or co-workers to let them know they're appreciated and liked for themselves.As for a specific thing a shy person can do for themselves,is ,accept and be aware ,that there are others like them and it's ok to be exactly who they are.
@Zalvor (728)
• Turkey
12 Apr 07
I think there's not much you can do, as shy people are 'hiding people' and when they get attention they prefer to keep in the hiding. Time works best, when they realize on their own that loneliness is not a good idea and it's wiser to open up. Talking directly doesn't help much, for people tend to build barriers to hide their embarrassment; that's usually the source of shyness. The desire to open up should come from them, then you can be gentle and show the good signs if you care for them. But otherwise it's a useless effort.