Dates at Home?
By dedicated_28
@dedicated_28 (1383)
United States
April 12, 2007 3:27pm CST
I have been struggling with a relationship problem,and it was recently suggested to having little dates at home. I personally have never heard of this. they said to take whatever little bit of time you can wether it be 1 hour and do things like candles and a massage in the bedroom or snuggling up together and watching a movie etc. Has anyone ever done this ? Does this work? What type of things have you done?
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@Drakhan (240)
• United States
12 Apr 07
I love doing this. I don't really think of it as a date so much as just spending quality time with the person I love. My girlfriend is going to college out of state and because of the long distance thing, we don't see each other nearly as much as I'd like. The last time she was here, we spent a week together and most of it was just snuggling up in bed and watching movies. Or I'd cook dinner. Or we'd cook dinner together. We also did the massages. It's basically just focusing on being with the person you love instead of looking for things to do with them. Movies, parties, dancing, etc., these are nice and have their places, but I find they are more activities to distract you from your mate rather than help you focus on them.
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@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
12 Apr 07
I never really thought about it like that. My problem is lack of time and due to demanding children no privacy. I think as bad as the relationship is right now we would almost have to consider them dates in order for us to focus. Thanks for sharing!
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@princessofrobb (64)
• Philippines
18 Apr 07
I don't that will work in a conservative family, especially if there are other members living in the same house.
@princessofrobb (64)
• Philippines
18 Apr 07
Opps, I mean I don't think that will work...sorry typo :)
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@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
18 Apr 07
Yeah, it is difficult when there are others in the home. I'm kinda struggling to find adequate child care for my disabled child. Thanks for responding.
@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
12 Apr 07
When my boyfriend and I actually had some time together, when I was in Arizona for two weeks in February, every night was like that. We did go out so he could show me the sights, but we spent some good quality time at home, even if it was just snuggling infront of a movie we both wantd to see, or having a good conversation about something that interested both of us. It was very nice for both of us.
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@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
12 Apr 07
I'm glad to hear that you had some time together. It kind of sounds like you don't anymore. If that's the case, I'm sorry. Take care.
@deesamps (653)
• United States
12 Apr 07
Yeah, with having kids we have done this. We wait until they go to bed and then we have our "mini" dates. We sometimes will watch a movie. Or feed the kids dinner and then make us a romantic candle light dinner to eat after they are in bed. You just do what you need to do to get some time alone together. Which is very important to any relationship.
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@suspendedindusk03 (319)
• United States
12 Apr 07
Yes, my boyfriend and I do this quite often, mainly because we don't always have the money to spend to go out on a typical dinner/movie type of date. We live together, we both work and we have a small child at home that we can't always find a babysitter for. So on those weekend evenings that we don't have a babysitter and/or enough money to go out, we'll snuggle up on the couch and watch a movie together, or anything as long as it's together.
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@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
12 Apr 07
that's our problem, with that special-needs-child I don't have any childcare. I do for my daughter though.
I'm going to give it a shot. Thanks
