Does your birth order affect your relationships with your siblings?

@miamilady (4924)
United States
April 12, 2007 9:56pm CST
I am the youngest of 4. I am 39 years old and I think that to my oldest sister, she still sees me as a kid and sometimes treats me as such. Do you think that your birth order affects the way you interact with your siblings? Are you an oldest, youngest or middle child? Do you think your birth order affects your personality?
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• United States
16 Apr 07
i'm not sure. i'm the middle child and i was always sort of babied by my parents. not really made to domuch. as a result my older and younger sisters are both way more responsible than i am. so i guess in a way it did/
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• Philippines
14 Apr 07
i am the oldest among six siblings. on my opinion, birth order does affect personality. sometimes when ur the oldest you tend to be more responsible than the other siblings because it's as if you were trained to look over your younger siblings.
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13 Apr 07
I am the middle child.One sis is older to me by 1.5 yrs and the other is younger to me by 2.5 yrs.Due to the narrow age gap between us,it was always like a rivalry fr us to be the favourite child of our parents.My father pampered my elder sis and my mother and father both pampered my younger sis.I was the one who never really got pampered.I would never protest though I felt that I was being neglected,not being given enough attention, and stuff.But now I am proud to say that I am the one my parents think more mature than the other two.They think I am much more independent in many things.Because I was not given enough attention,I put all my energies into learning things by myself,so much so I did not trust my own people if something went wrong-I was the only one who could fix it..:)but once we grew up and all that rivalry for being mom or dad's pet was gone,I became more protective of my younger sis.me and my older sis were very close since we were very young.My younger sis was more of a tomboy and only after she finished college,she became really close to us,in the sense that she started talking like an adult and behaving like one.But even today, she is still the baby sister for me.I was kind of not wanting to believe when she got married and then went on to have a baby.it was like,"oh she is still so young".
@Katlady2 (9920)
• United States
13 Apr 07
I am the youngest of three. I am 40 years old and my brother is 20 years older than I am, and my sister is 18 years older. So I am a whole different generation from them. At times, I feel as if I am an only child, as there isn't as much communication between me and my siblings as there is on their part between each other. I am closer to my brother, who has always been there for me. But I think my sister just pretends I don't exist. No self pity for me though, because I have a wonderful life with my kids and hubby.
@foogirl (87)
• United States
13 Apr 07
I think in my case it does. I'm 34 and my sisters are 11 and 12 years older than me...so they still see me as a child I think. We weren't raised together either, so that is the thing that effects our relationship the most though. I dont' think it has effected my personality though..I feel like I was raised an "only child" since I didn't even ever live with them.
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@paidreader (5151)
• United States
13 Apr 07
I'm the oldest of 3. Being the oldest did make a difference when we were kids. If you've ever watched Rugrats, I would have been an Angelica, I'm afraid. As the oldest I was always told I had to set a good example for my sisters & I have to say I did resent it sometimes. Being older by 4 years would keep me from doing lots of things with my friends because my younger sisters weren't invited too. Things have gotten much better now that we're older. We respect each other as adults and for the different paths we've taken in life but we have left most of the sibling rivalry behind along with our childhood. As far as personality goes, I'm not sure really, responsibility can make you more cautious and caring but a stronger person overall I suppose. My habit of "mothering" or watching out for others may have been a result of my birth order, but it could also be due to my star sign being Virgo, lol.
• United States
19 Jul 07
Hi miamilady! Thanks for the BR! :)
@gradyslady (4055)
• United States
18 Sep 07
I'm the youngest of 7, but that is because my father was married and had 3 boys and 1 girl with his wife, my mom had a son with this guy, but he later passed away, then a few years later, my parents met, had my brother and me, but they never got married. I don't really talk to my dad's other kids. Well I do talk to my sister a little bit and two of my brothers, but the oldest one I've met once or twice. It's kind of sad because I wish we would have had some kind of relationship. I really wish I had that older sister to go to when times got rough, but I couldn't because one she's like 20 years older than me and she was already married and moved away when I was like 4. My brother, the one my mom had with the other guy, he lives with us because he's blind, and we pretty much get along because of sports and certain tv shows. But I really really get along with my brother who has the same two parents as me. He's 3 years older than me, but we have so much fun together. He's my best friend.