Computer makes us ignore the ppl around?

I think it is very additive and can ruin relatioships if you're not careful. I know of some people who have had their marriages destroyed because they didn't know how to limit there computer use. Sometimes I get out of hand and so does my husband. I have to literally complain about him being on it ALL the time and we have had arguments about it. Most times when I am on here he is asleep. The difference between he and I is most times I see when I'm getting obsessive and stop getting on for awhile. I have to force myself to stay away and do stuff that needs to be done around the house. Use to my kids had to remind me that I hadn't watched a movie with them in a while or played a game with them..that opens my eyes.

I would rather view it that this person using the computer has made more friends ("virtual" ones in this case). This will then become a question of whether it is a problem to ignore old friends in favor of new. Tough nut still. :P

Just don't ask how many hours I spent here.It has become a major activity.You should ask me if I go to sleep or eat ot to college rather than asking me if I sit online.Before going to bed you can find me online till late night.Morning as soon as I get up I am online till I go to college.After coming back from college I am online.I always have my food on the computer table.I am badly addicted and somehow I don't want to get out of this addiction.My parents feel I stay like paying guest with them {rather non-paying guests}and I have kind of lost contact with all my real life friends and have more of virtual friends.My friends keep teasing me about this,when they see me out they ask howcome I am not online! :P

For me it's not a problem if we know how to manage our time. I can't imagine spending hours online would affect my relationship with loved ones. Sure it's addictive but it doesn't mean you won't give time anymore to other more important things in life.

I spend at least 12 hours if not more on the internet everyday.Running an internet business requires many hours. Also my friends and family are most times on the internet also,but I do take time out for company or to go and visit,shopping,doing other housework chores. Iknow many families have a problem with one mate or the other being on the internet a lot, you just must figgure out what is more important to you.

iam addicted to the internet.. iam sitting on the net for 5-7 hours everyday... iam ignoring my friends and my family. i tried to sit less but i couldnt.

Yes...I think you are right. My boyfriend tells me I spend too much time online. I think that I have been kind of ignoring him. The problem is that if I want writing work, I have to write and spend time online searching jobs..talking with clients, doing work etc. There has to be a happy medium...

I am online most of the day, I am SAHM so I keep getting on and off my com. Id o feel that I have to fiish cooking fast sothat I can get back to it but I do try and balance it out. I usually keep a count of my discussions and as I reach a certain mark lets say forty I quit and go back to my work and family. As they are the reason I am trying to earn online. How much you get addicted depends on you only. keep aside few hours to talk to family and friends then may be you can feel mor efulfilled than you feel right now.

I too had this kind of problem and i believe that computer does makes us ignore people around us. I also used to spend plenty of time surfing and chatting. People who came to meet me always found me busy with internet. So they just slipped away. Spending time on computer is like a addiction and its not easy getting out of it. When i am chatting or surfing i forget the real world around me.

with the development in technology 24 hors a day is not enough for a person to just play around his gadgets for his personal use.the sense of love and affection is reducing drastically with time and the expansion of technology.people are more interested in spending more time in front of the computer than with real live people and their family members nowadays.i cannot be without sitting in front of my computer everyday.i guess i would go crazy without my computer.and of course you are right.the internet is so vey addictive.there are just so many things that attracts us on the internet.and not to mention the health hazards by spending hours in front of the computer.but people continue to do so and this is only going to worsen in future.

I spend around three to four hours everyday on the net, I feel fine with my friends because we do have catch up sometimes, and I know our friends are more imortant than your net friends. But if you really find out that you have addicted to the internet and tend to ignore other people, there may be some problems, may be you have to reduce the time spending on the net and share more time with your friends,family or partner. I think children are the most vulnerable if they are indulged in the internet sicne they do not have any social skills, if they stay in front of the computer for the whole days, they may loss the chance to develop social skilsl through normal social activities, may be the parents shoudl keep an eye on this problem.

I live alone and don't really have friends to spend time with as I am not really interested. So I can do pretty well what I like and that is the way I like it. I have had friends etc. in the past and usually they will eventually let you down so I do not bother anymore.. Too much trouble.

This is indeed a very sensitive issue prevailing in today's society. the closeness to PC's is growing at an alarming rate. They are meant to reduce distances through advancement in communication via internet. No doubt, it has succeeded. But, what an irony ?? We chat endlessly wid a complete stranger sitting miles away, and yet we never really bother to ask our neighbor's name. It's distancing ppl a great deal and something effective needs to be undertaken soon before it's too late.

I reached a level where the computer is an essential part of my studies, my life and entertainment. Looks like I can't live without it. Just imagine yourself living without a computer...

I spent nearly 15 hours a day with my computer. Most of the time with the internet. I have installed a TV tuner card and a PCTV software from Pinnacle in my computer so that I can watch the news and other programmes of interest in the computer itself. I also feel like getting strange to my friends and acquintance, however not to the family. Some times I lose the sense of time also. But I enjoy this. See I am a retired man and has a lot of time. I spent it with my computer and the internet.

I usually spend about 8 -10 hours a day. Maybe when the first you will get addict with internet / computer, I also passed those time before. Well everything if it's too over also not good, but I think you will arrange your time next time after you realize that you are already too far from your non-computer things. After I realize that I got addicted, I limited myself not using pc after school or job hours, I also take a rest, because using too much time in front of computer also not good for your body (not radiation issues, but you won't move enough your body if you just sit down all day -lol-). You also right that about tend to ignore people is big issues for computer addict, this become social attitude in this era I think, so if you don't want become the victims, better for you to arrange your time, at least trying too see another views, not only monitor :P

Wonderful discussions. To answer your question I think that computers can have a negative effect on people and how they communicate. I spend a lot of time on the internet as I run two communities and my husband runs several online businesses. I don't allow it to effect my personal life. My husband and I still make time for each other and we spend a lot of time with our children and I actually talk to my friend on the phone (I don't email her) so no I don't think the computer makes me ignore those around me though I admit their have been times my hubby or children have said something to me while I'm writing and I haven't heard them. lol

yup.. i agree with this topic.. when i play computer for hours.. maybe 3 - 5.. i tend to ignore every person around me.. oh.. come on.. i need to concentrate on my work right? it happens everytime when im posting in mylot.. haha :D.. my parents use to scold me when i was young.. but .. now they seldom nag me on this =)

I spend several hours a day on the computer. I'm a single mum and live alone in this country. The computer is how I stay in touch with my parents and most of the friends I have are on here. I chose to be on the comp but agree that it can be addictive and that it can cut out normal relationships at times.

I completely agree with you. Today computers and dependency on computers, addiction to computer games, chatting etc. has really driven the kids specially into the confined place of computer room. The nature, the neighbour are drastically forgotten, even I see that intellectual ability of normal kids are decreasing due to over dependency on computers. Internet is one of the most useful but also most harmful thing today. Computer should be used with proper care. Not too much dependent.