Okay, so why is it like this....

United States
April 13, 2007 11:21am CST
Please tell me why I don't understand what people mean when they say they "need some space"....if you love someone you don't need space, and you should want to be a part of someone's life...I personally am not going through this right now, but am still unsure as to what people mean, and why they need space. Please enlighten me.
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• Philippines
16 Apr 07
give me a space means let her or him by their own for a moment, so they can realize what its like of not having you around. Suddenly they will realize the circumstances, and what will happen to them if you are far apart. the outcome can be good or bad, but i think if ever it happens, they must have a serious talk before giving a decision, because you know that is a tough one and a very difficult to take in to action.
• United States
16 Apr 07
When I "need some space", I need some time alone and some quiet-usually when I'm processing something stressful or sorting out emotions. "Space" also means that I don't want to spend 24/7 with you just because you're my partner. You need "space" to grow as an individual; it makes you a better partner in the relationship.
@natalie1981 (2002)
• Singapore
14 Apr 07
Honestly, it could mean a variety of things. But most of the time, the person is just going through a time in their life when they want to think things through and where exactly they want your relationship to end up. It doesn't always mean the end. Sometimes, some time apart is just what lovers need in order to realize that they really are meant for each other.
• India
14 Apr 07
hi these are my views on the topic you may or may not agree to it. When it comes to relationship between two individulas we always forget that they are "individual" first and then comes the role in the relationship. Take "love", when you love someone you should always keep in mind that the other person was, is and will be an "individual". Was an Individual before the realtionship started, is an individual during the relationship and will be an individual even after the relationship is over. Most of the time when "love" is at its peak people become possesive rather over possesive about counter part and then they forget that s/he is an "individual" . Every individual has something which only s/he knows about her/his personality. I personaly feel when someone tells you "need some space", thne its time you should check your way of behavior or treating the person. "Johari Window" is the best and simplest way of explaining this. Out of the four quadrants in this "facade" and "blind Spot" are two involved in your question. You see every Individula Personality is devided in four parts 1. things known to self and others(arena), 2. Known to self only (facade),3. Known to others only(blind Spot) and 4. Not known to self and others(unknown). So if you trying to intrude in number 2 or 3 then, yes! the individual will definetly needs space. You either trying to know too much about her/him which at this point the person does not want to share or you are exposing her/him to many thing which the individual does not know about her/his personality and s/he may not want know at this point of time. The bottemline is time is the best solution for such situations. Just sit back and relax your self because even you "NEED SOME SPACE" right! Enjoy the life of human being.
• India
13 Apr 07
when they say need some space then they mean that they want to think over something, they want to spend time with themselves..they need some silent time and tht's it...its nothing to take ceriously.Juts gve them the time they want and everything will b okay
@mssnow (9496)
• United States
13 Apr 07
Everyone needs time alone from others. if we are with someone 24 hours a day, we get irritated. I know for a fact I need time alone. I hate being with someone all the time. Even my children get on my nerves if I can't get a way for a while. Doesn't mean we don't love them.
@makingpots (11928)
• United States
13 Apr 07
Personally I think it is just an over used catch phrase. I need sometime to think or I am not sure I have the feelings you want me to have might be more appropriate but it is just easier to say ..... I need some space.
• United States
13 Apr 07
When someone says they need space, it could mean a variety of things. Most of the time, they are just struggling with the degree of committment and are relapsing back to the days when they didn't have to give anyone that constant attention; in other words, they just really truly need to get back to themselves, basically management problems. Another reason could be to seriously think over what they want, if they are getting it, and if the relationship is really going anywhere.