beware women..men..this is dangerous
April 13, 2007 5:40pm CST
This is not my story, but it is very worthwhile!! Please read this and warn as many of your friends as possible. Some of you are probably doing this already, but some still have people sending emails with all of the addresses still showing. Please Read This All The Way Through Late one evening, while online, I received an IM (Internet message) from a gentleman who said he knew me through mutual pals online. We chatted for an hour or so before deciding to keep in touch, as we had so many things in common. Eventually after a week or so of knowing him, I trusted him with my name (first name) and phone number. After all, he knew my friends and I felt he must have been okay if they all liked and knew him. He knew a lot about them; he knew a lot about me, and he knew a lot about alot! He seemed like such a nice person, a pleasant person, and someone whom I felt very comfortable sharing my time online(and on the phone) with. One night, a friend from our group of friends invited me to a Chat Room where several of the friends had gathered and were chatting when this gentleman popped into the Chat Room. He popped in and then left quickly. Then, for the first time since I met and started chatting with him, I mentioned him to one of the friends who was in the Chat Room, one whom this gentleman claimed an association with. She was in total awe, she did not know who he was! Things were beginning to look really suspicious. The more she and I chatted, the more suspicious it became. It also became apparent that this guy knew none of us. Suddenly, he disappeared off-line for a few days, then one day he pops back in and sends me an IM saying that we need to talk. He called me at my home and I was very upset, so I asked him how he really found me and why he had felt the need to lie in the first place. ***Please pay attention to this:***He told me that he spotted my screen name on a "Forward" that one of my friends had sent to someone else. My screen name is what attracted him. He then used the screen name of others on the list of forwards to acquaint himself with me and various others from our clique of friends. He also used the Member Directory (at AOL) to look up info about others on the list of forwards, so as not to look suspicious. He said he felt it was the only way he would have the chance to get to know me, and the main attraction to me was "My Screen name" because he thought it was "sexy". I was upset, needless to say, as I had trusted this man with my personal info, such as phone number and name. He also knew where I lived (thanks to the phone bill) and I was now his prey. A few days after having last talked to this person and thinking that was the last of him, I received a phone call at 4:00 AM. It was this man telling me he was in town to see a friend who lived 20 minutes from my house, and wanted to know if I would like to meet him for coffee or breakfast. When I told him it was not such a good idea,he became irate and hung up on me. I immediately called him back (caller ID) and explained to him that my husband was back home (trying to scare him) and please not be so mad (in fear of him and what he might do). Telling him that my husband had returned and we were reconciling was a lie, and I told him this to make him think I was not alone. Imagine the feeling I felt in the pit of my stomach when he came back with the following response - - "You're a lying b...., your husband is not there with you -- you are alone!"I hung up on him and immediately called the Broward County Sheriff's office and told them what had happened. They sent an officer over to take a report and said that was really all they could do for me at that time. So, I packed few belongings into my car, and drove to my sister's home for the night. Fifteen or twenty minutes after I arrived at her home, I received a phone call from this man again. He knew thatI had called the Sheriff and reported him; he knew where I was and he knew my sister and her husband's names. This man had been stalking me for weeks and I had no idea. I walked, ate, slept and breathed in constant fear until he was finally arrested for stalking -- Not for stalking me. Nope -- for stalking another lady who lived in Kendall, Florida. I wanted to share this with you all. And yes, it is all true. Friends, when you forward things and you leave your friends' names out in plain view like that, you are putting them and yourself in what could be grave danger. I hope I have gotten this message across. I have not even begun to mention his assault (rape, using deadly force) charges the detectives from Broward County and Kendall, FL uncovered on him while investigating his prior history. ............................................. People, please -- Be safe, be careful and use Blind Carbon Copy (BCC). Please Remember: It is Important to remove allpersonal email addresses when forwarding items from this, or any other emails. Many of us have a great deal of information in our signature files that appear at the bottom of many of our messages. In addition, the blind carbon copy (Bcc) option makes the individuals you send email to unseen by all other recipients. E-mailers should also cut out ALL email addresses from "Fwd's" when forwarding the message on. You may have received unsolicited emails from individuals who have retrieved your email address via a forwarded message from a group. IF YOU CARE ABOUT YOUR FRIENDS, CHANGE HOW YOU SEND E-MAIL!
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• United States
14 Apr 07
Excellent information Thank you.I am impressed with how you handled the situation you were in,it must have been terrifying for you.I am very glad you are alright.And the advice you gave us all here is advice I will pass on to others I know & I recommend everyone else do the same.Unfortunately there are some sick & strange people in our world today that stalk people.Everyone should take your avice on this discussion! Glad you're alright!
13 Apr 07
Well I am lucky I think that I do not use any chat rooms any more as I found that people were always bugging me for one things or another and I never gave out my email address to people that I did not know personally. So I think that I saved myself a lot of grief.
13 Apr 07
yes these things people must be aware of, also because of the same reasons I think it is also dangerous in todays society with thefixation some men have on little children these days, I think it is dangerous to put photos of children on the internet, the photos alone could be collected by some to do other things on the net with and add it to your way story can be very dangerous...
• United States
13 Apr 07
Well done, margieanne! You've pointed out a very serious flaw in emailing etiquette that could turn dangerous... I've never sent email forwards to multiple people and I never will, even if it seems more efficient for business, it's a bad practice to spread the names and addresses of your associates around... Thanks for sharing your experience and I'm glad that you are OK!