Do you ever feel like all you talk about is your children?

@astromama (1226)
United States
April 14, 2007 1:04am CST
I haven't even had the baby yet, and all my recent discussions have been about him, or labor, or infant products and diapers! Is this what it is to be a mom? Swimming in a river of pee, poop, and spit up and forgetting that you used to actually have thoughts that didn't center around those activities? Do you find that to be true of yourself since you had kids?
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@mememama (3077)
• United States
14 Apr 07
I think so, especially when they are babies and it's such a new experience. People will call and ask you "how's the baby doing" instead of how you are, I remember that! I think it lessens as they get older and aren't so dependant on you. My son now is able to get up in the morning and not have to sit on my lap for an hour, it's amazing. But see I'm talking about my child again lol. I also think part of it is because I'm a stay at home mother. So really what my day is washing cloth diapers, laundry, other chores, and my son. I'm sure if I had a job I'd have more to talk about, which can be kind of sad if you think about it since I do have a college education. But it's hard to explain, but they do become your life and you will get thoughts that don't center around your children 24/7-eventually.
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@astromama (1226)
• United States
14 Apr 07
I'm really excited to have a baby... I was never a person who had to think about whether or not I wanted a child, I always knew I'd be a mother. Now that it's here, it seems unreal... like it can't be possible I will actually have a baby of my own so soon (I'm due next Saturday). It's all consuming to ME, but I wonder how tired other people get of hearing about it, and I don't want to become one of those moms with nothing else to say. Up until now, politics, health, environment have all been a huge part of who I am and why I connect with certain people. I don't want to lose that amidst the diapers, but judging by all of your well-informed, interesting discussions it seems like you still have some thoughts that don't center on your son! I think the key is for me to get out with him a lot and continue to do as many of the things I did before... It's like the baby hurricane sweeps in and litters your house with plastic crap and onesies, and I'm just hoping all MY stuff doesn't get completely buried!
@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
14 Apr 07
Yes, especially when your preggers with your first. I think it's completely normal, because that's what your whole life is centered around. YOU have to change all of your habits, and what you eat, drink etc, when you are pregnant, and as the day approaches, you really get preoccupied with it. I know with my second one it wasn't nearly as bad, as I had another one to distract me from it. I must say it does get better after awhile, eventually you'll rediscover yourself, but when you are talking to another mother, your conversations will drift back to poop, peeing and spitting up, it's just human nature I suppose. Just find some friends who already have children the same age, and you'll find someone you can call at 6:00 in the morning the first time you find blood in your babies stool. You need friends like that, that will reassure you that it's problably nothing,(with mine, his sinus' were draining into his stools, so he had a little mucus and blood in it) and to help you find your way. I have a friend I can call, and just did recently, as my 7 month old had not had a b.m. for almost a week, when he had one, and it was normal, she was the first one I called, and she was honestly excited and happy for us. I never thought I'd be happy to see a dirty diaper, but I was! I am excited for you and am sure you'll make a great mother. There is nothing like it. I find myself very excited whenever I speak to a woman about to give birth. It's such a wonderful expeirence that changes everything. Hope the little one decides to come out soon for your sake, I remember the discomfort of being so pregnant! (:
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@moonmagick (1458)
• United States
15 Apr 07
Yes. I used to be a real live adult who had intelligent conversations on a variety of topics. Now my day isn't complete if I haven't had at least one conversation about poop or lack thereof. Along with a few random one's centering on what the baby has accomplished, what he ate, how many times we had to change his clothes, and any other child related topic someone can come up with. Actually when my mom or my husband calls during the day to see how the baby is doing, I run down the list of how many dirty diapers, whether or not he spit up, and what he ate that day. Also it is no longer "the baby had oatmeal for breakfast today" Its "we had oatmeal for breakfast today." I didn't even realize that had happened until my mom asked when I started eating oatmeal. LOL Just wait until you have the baby. In public you cease to exist as an individual. You are the extension of the baby. Sometimes I long for grown up conversation. Actually I am quite shy, and would never speak to a stranger in the past. Lately if I am out running errands, I find myself starting conversations with complete strangers. Of course half the time those are kid related too. LOL. I am guessing its going to be that way until he is grown, and then there will be grandkids to discuss, so yep, my guess is that is what it means to be a mom. Of course I am still pretty new at it.
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• Canada
14 Apr 07
i know all i seem to talk about is my daughter. that's because i'm a stay at home mom and i don't do anything but take care of her. i don't go out anywhere or do anything for myself but chat on here so i have nothing else interesting to talk about. she is my life and i love her so much so i like to share the cute things that she does.
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@carlaabt (3508)
• United States
14 Apr 07
Sometimes I definitely feel like kids are all I talk about. I wasn't so bad before he was born, or even right after he was, probably because I was so tired, I just didn't talk! LOL I was working pretty much full time right up until he was born. I worked Saturday, I was scheduled to be off Sunday, Monday, and Tuesday, and he was born Wednesday. So the first day I actually took off work was the day my son was born! I was only off for 5 weeks and then back at work pretty much full time for the first 6 months. My husband and I were working opposite shifts. When he went back to days, I cut back at work. After a couple of months of sending my son next door while I was at work, I decided to just stay home with him pretty much full time. Technically I still have a job. I actually just got off work. But I only work every other Saturday. So now my world pretty much revolves around my son. I still read the paper and stay somewhat on top of current events. But I do spend much more time researching every little thing that goes on with my baby now, instead of looking up things that I was interested in before. I guess it's because my priorities have changed, too. You know, I used to enjoy listening to country music. Now I know all the words to Sesame Street songs! Same thing for TV shows. Between the Lions is the favorite at our house right now. And food! Grilled cheese was never on the menu before I had my son, now it is at least twice a week. Sometimes three or four times. Babies just change our lives so much.
@GuateMom (1411)
• Canada
14 Apr 07
you definitely talk more about kids once you have them. Your entire life is pretty much taken up by them, but I think it is also important that you pursue outside interests or you will lose yourself as you say, in a river of pee and poop! The first few months are the worst, really. You are still getting used to this little person who needs constant attention and care and you donĀ“t have time or energy to think about other things. AFter that, they get a bit more self-sufficient and you are accustomed to everything so you can start considering other things. Good luck on your upcoming arrival!