What if . . .
14 Apr 07
i will allow her to see the child as its her's only and i dont have right to stop meeting a mother from her child. But i will not tell child that she's her mother, if that happens he will feel emotionally unstable, also i may loose him and 10years has been long, he must have also developed a good emotional relationship wth me, which is hard for him to get rid of even he wants to. So all things will be disturbing for him if i tell him the truth, rather than that tell child the this women is close friend of yours and lets her meet him.
17 May 07
yes, it is better to allow a meeting between the two. after all, they are the true blood relations. they are entitled to know each other at a friendly level at first. then they can move on to a higher level as time moves on. some mothers actually, would want to see her child once in a while, only to see how the child is going. they will not turn up to claim the child again for their own. this hardly happens because it is not going to be easy to do this.
17 May 07
if i have an adopted child, the child would have known right from the very start that he/she is an adopted one. that i love the child just like my own. if the mother comes, i will surely allow them to meet. if i have sufficient time in my hands to explain the situation to the child, i will reveal everything before the meeting takes place and, if i am hard pressed for time, i will tell the child about everyting after the meeting. then, they can meet again within a day or two so they can enjoy each other's company better. i will leave to fate what may happen next.