I'm Learning To Be A Good Friend
By Rozie37
@Rozie37 (15499)
Turkmenistan
April 14, 2007 9:06pm CST
At 37, I finally see the importance of a good long lasting friendship. I have never before really realized the importance of friends. Before, if I moved, changed schools, or jobs, I would allow the friendship to fizzle.
Now, I am working to be a true friend and it is hard work. When we fight, I am ready to just walk away and forget it, but I am also learning forgiveness. When we forgive each other and start hanging out and having a good time again, I realize all that I could have missed, had I not forgiven.
I am under the impression now that a true friend can be forgiven for anything, no matter how bad. And "To forgive without forgetting is another way of saying, I don't forgive you." I try to be the best at everything that I do and at the same time, not be a perfectionist. If I think of other things that way, I figure, why not go at friendship the same way.
I have been hurt, manipulated, exploited, and had a lot of other bad experiences, by people who I thought were my friends. I figure with all that experience, I should be an expert at what not to do.
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4 responses
@Joslyn77 (374)
• United States
15 Apr 07
I was a senior in high school when I finely realized what it meant to be a good friend. I was what you called a "loner". My "best friends" would change all the time. I never stayed friends with anyone person for very long until my Jr. year in high school I met this girl in my math class and slowly we became friend and then I also became friend with her sister and here 23 years later we are all still very close!
@kelly60 (4547)
• United States
15 Apr 07
True friends are hard to find, so once you find them you need to hang on to them no matter what. You can always find someone else who wants to use you for whatever they can get out of you, but once a true friend is gone, they cannot be replaced.
@sheenshaukat (2617)
• Pakistan
15 Apr 07
you have been hurt by your so called friends and you forgvave them, means that you are very simple and flate in respect of friendship. Friend is not name of an ordinary person. It is very difficult to seek a good friend. Every friend takes care to his or friend. It is very famous proverb that a friend in need is friend in deed. The person who shares yor sorrow a happiness could be called a good friend. A friend should live in your soul and you should live closer and closer to his life. Mutual understanding, faith and sicerity are the properties of good friendship. Mutual respect is another passion which does never arise a situation of hurting to eachother. Be your own friend first and dont forgive such people who hurt you in the mask of friendship.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
15 Apr 07
I believe in forgiveness. God forgives everyone, so who am I not to forgive. God is the only just judge. The Bible says, Men look on the outward appearance, but God looks on the heart. I can not discern everyones motive, so, I forgive and leave it up to God to judge.
