What happened to neighbors helping neighbors?
By foxyfire33
@foxyfire33 (10005)
United States
April 17, 2007 10:44am CST
I live in a very small community. There's probably only around 200 people here. Everyone knows everyone. More importantly (to this post) is the fact that everyone knows I'm living here alone with a baby. We just got hit with a snow storm that left a foot of heavy, wet snow. It drifted even deeper in some places. I don't have a driveway so I have to park just off the edge of the road. Right now my van is buried up over the front bumper, the snow is piled higher than the bottom of the doors. There is no way I can get it out. I also have a long side walk just to get out there which of course isn't cleared either. I've seen every single one of my male neighbors out shoveling and plowing and snow blowing their walks and driveways but not a single one came to see if I needed help. It's not that I physically can't do it myself but they all know I have a small baby. Do they think I should just leave him in the house alone while I go out to shovel?! I just don't see how they can all just go about their business without any concern for me. It would take all of 5 minutes with a plow, maybe 10 or 15 minutes with a snow blower. It's not like I'm expecting much...or am I? I thought neighbors were supposed to help neighbors.
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@astromama (1221)
• United States
18 Apr 07
I think it's dispicable not one of your male neighbors offered to help you when they obviously have the equiptment to do so. I think it's just thoughtlessness. I'm sure they would help if you asked for it, but I am a firm believer in helping others without being asked. I think it has something to do with the way I was raised. My little brother, for example, will mow our neighbor lady's yard (she's quite old) without being asked every single time he mows my moms yard. At Christmas and Thanksgiving, my mom makes her a 'to-go' plate and brings it to her hot before she sits down to her own meal. She brings her cookies and soup and stuff too. I am all for being neighborly and looking out for each other. And we (as in people) should take special care to remember the elderly and the babies... it takes a village, you know?
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@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
18 Apr 07
I also think it takes a village. It was frustrating because the one is a few years younger than me and still lives at home. He doesn't even have a job so it's not like that was an issue. The other neighbor is older but has a ride on lawn tractor with a snow blower and is quite healthy and active doing everything else, an extra 10 minutes or so shouldn't have been a big deal. Especially since it's his dog that constantly gets loose and leaves me "presents" and I have to take the time to return.
Well it doesn't matter now anyway. I had to get out last night so I shoveled for a few minutes at a time while the baby was sleeping. I didn't like leaving him alone in the house but my s/o doesn't have a vehicle so he couldn't come over to help until I could get the van out to pick him up. I'll get him this evening and bring him back here to finish the side walk and a better place to park.
Your mom and brother sound like great people!


