good cop/bad cop roles in disciplining a child  

Hubby and I already agreed before we had kids that we're not going to play the good cop/bad cop role. We feel that it's confusing for the child. We decided that it's going to be a shared responsibility and we're going to agree on what the limits are going to be, how to discipline, etc. Now, we have a 2 year old and we try our best to do everything the same. I think consistency is key. Children need to see and know that Mom and Dad are in agreement. As a result, I hardly get any protest from him cos' he knows he cannot just run to one parent and get away with stuff. I think your husband and you need to sit down and talk about what the boundaries are going to be for your child and how you are going to handle it together.

You should talk with your husband and be straight with him about your role as a disciplinarian. It can be quite tedious for you if things will not turn out the way it should be. Inform your husband that he should be firm with your daughter too. Giving in for the sake of lessening the tantrum is certainly not a good way to teach your daughter. I hope your husband will support you in this aspect. Good luck.