What to say to your child about you dying.

Well depend of kid age of course.When my daughter find out that i will die also she cryied a lot saying "if you die i will die"...but she was little...Now is not so little but still keep saying that she want be near me when she will get married(rolling my eyes)and when i die she want to die also,because she love me to much...I know she will understand more good in nearly future...

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If your child is old enough, I would tell her all that. It might not make her miss you less, but at least she will understand that it is a natural way to feel. That it is hard, and she will never forget you, but she will live her life because there are others out there who love her always and she needs to be there for them. Confiding in her and sharing your heart will mean more to her than any made up answer you can think of.

First and foremost I think you need to figure out where this came from? How did she find how that you were going to die eventually... and after that you will need to find out what she was told so you can fix anything that she was told that was wrong or reinforce what she was told that was right. I have already had this talk with my oldest who is only 7. You always have to give the kids talks when they ask the question but always make sure you give it to them at their age level. I just explained to my daughter that everybody in life has to die at some point and that the people they leave behind carry on their memory.

She wanted to know if she would be a grown up before I died and I told her that there is not anyway for a person to know when they are going to die. That I can't guarantee that but that I was pretty sure she would be and that she has nothing to worry about.

Hope you were able to calm her fears! This is one part that is the hardest with being a parent. Having to explain to them about life, the ways of the world, death and anything they ask that we might find difficult to discuss.

I would simply like to sit down with my children and talk to them about it, tell them that it would be ok. Our children need to be prepared that someday we may not be there, that way they are not set up to fall down later. I understand that your daughter is young, so simply tell her that it won't happen for a long time. Tell her that its a natural part of life and that everything eventually dies, its just life. You can tell her that no matter weather you are there or not you will always watch over her if something were to happen to you. Just put her at ease by saying it won't happen for a while, that you will be here in this world for as long as you can.