Step Mother In~law  

it sounds as though you have done all you can do. I know it may hurt not having them around but like you have said it is their choice. You have not made it to where they are not welcome.. right? If they want to be that way then let them. You can't control what others do to you, you can only control how you allow it to effect you. Good luck. And dont stress over it. One day they will see the mistakes they ahve made and wish they could turn back time.

You are doing just fine Rhonda Roo !! My own mother used to drive by my house daily and never stopped to see her grandchildren. I know all too well the type of situation you are in, and by moving on and not living your life around them, you are doing the best you can for yourself and your family. I tell myself, when my boys get older, they'll know the truth about certain things, and yours will too. They'll figure out why Grandpa wasn't around. You keep on truckin girl. You know I'm always here for you !!

I'm in a fairly similar situation with my inlaws. My husband never got on with his father, there are 3 sons, but the father always talks about 1, all the time, never mentions the other 2 at all, or how well both are doing. Being the eldest, this really got to my husband. And because they're so alike, they argued a lot. I kind of get on with both of them, but we tend not to go over, cause the father will be there. And there's always a chance of another argument. Sometimes my father in law will feel guilty about it, and venture to our house. This will happen maybe twice a year. My husbands aunt has told the father several times, that he has to realise that he's got 3 sons, not 1. So now my kids get to see their grand parents at birthdays, christmas, easter and halloween. We rarely go over any other time. I think that its up to my father in law to sort it out between them, and to make the first move. He's the one thats causing all the problems between them, not my husband. My husband has tried several times, they've had talks for hours, where the father would say he'll change, but like most men, he doesn't.