My Racist Brother in Law and Sister!

have experienced racism first-hand, more than once. I have walked into a store and had the manager or clerk follow me around the store to make sure that I did not steal anything. I have walked into restaurants and heard racial slurs being muttered by a customer. “Yeah, I have, but I try not to pay any attention to people that only have half a brain so I just ignore people that are prejudice against me.” It would be nice to just be able to ignore those comments, but it is not that easy to ignore ignorant people. In this time of crisis when we should be comforting each other, people who practice the Islamic faith have to endure reproach for the September 11 bombings. Some people in America still have not figured out that the practice of the same religion does not mean that they have the same opinion on issues. More importantly, they are people do not deserve such degradation. People should not have to be afraid to walk down the street in fear that a racist person will say or do something. I admit that the issue of prejudice is not as big of an issue as it may have been 40 years ago, but it has not gone away. The only question is this: Is it not that big of an issue because people have learned to be more tolerant or is it because people have learned to hide their prejudice? Think about comments that were meant to be harmless and funny, which are actually derogatory (belittling comments about a specific culture or person) comment. Think about every time that you have called someone fat or ugly. Then think how you would feel if someone said something offensive to you.

When those neices talk down to your boyfriend, simply tell them that they are to show respect for other adults when in your home. You can't force your brother or sister-in-law to accept what they don't want. It sounds like your mother has acceted him by what you write. The decisions is yours, you can defend your boyfriend or you can just sit back and let this rudeness continue. It all depends on how much you love him. He wont take it too long before he walks out on you. You show him lack of respect by not speaking up to these young children and their rudeness.

PRAYER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I know you love your family but I would set down some basic ground rules for my own home. If you and BF are serious enough to choose to live together, that is his home as much as it is yours....Both you and HE deserve respect and curtosy in your own house. Personally I would not tollerate anyone, kin or not, coming into my home and trying to dictate how I live, being so blatently rude and disrespectful to your Significant Other etc... If sister and her children can't respect your home and relationship, perhaps they don't need to continue to visit in your home. Weather they like your BF or not is a side issue...if he is the man you love and you choose to have in your life, treatig him like garbage is also disrespectful of you and basically says..your feelings, your opinions and what matters to you are NOT important.

some people are so uneducated...hope everything works out for you.

That's just ridiculous alright! They act so childish! How can a Disney show harm the kids?! And they don't need to drag the kids on the mess they're creating. It's just a harmless visit and i think it's an opportunity to bond as family. I feel for you because as a Filipino, i think we share similar culture with Mexicans. Devoted to religion and family oriented. Aside from the fact that Mexicans are hot!

Well one thing you should tell yours sister if your kids are not going to show him respect they ought not come over. Black,white,mexican or whatever he is an adult. Do you love him? Back him stand up for him. He may not say anything but you may need to. No you may not be able to change your sister but showing your boyfriend some respect by standing up for him will go along ways.