When breaking up with your b/f g/f why cant it be the right way?
@misssweetthingg (355)
United States
May 20, 2007 9:35pm CST
When a man or woman decides to break up with their significant other, why cant they do it in a polite manner. It seems breakups are always so nasty with lies spread, physical abuse, emotional abuse, etc. Also, honesty is a key that is missing in a lot of breakups as well. Why cant we just say "hey, I dont love you or I dont want to continue on with you in my life as my signifcant other". Either way the person will get upset but by beating around the bush, you make them feel as if they may have another chance or that they did something wrong when in reality, they didnt, your just not ready to settle down or you want someone else that has attracted you.
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@huilee (1005)
• Singapore
21 May 07
I guess this happens because they cant be honest with themselves too..
If u realised, alot of people who broke up with their partners will find fault in their partners even though it is their fault...
I guess that is how cruel love can be...
No point blaming each other...
I always believe in life, if the gf n bf fails to be a couple or husband and wife, it is perhaps that they are meant to be very good friends except that themselfs mistaken and went the wrong way...
Thus i think couples who break up should remain as friends, afterall, u guys have been together, perhaps u all know one another even better...
But definately not too close, in case the future gf misunderstoods or gets angry...
=)
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@misssweetthingg (355)
• United States
21 May 07
You are right, they would be the best friends to have because you already know one another so well. This is very hard for gf bfs to except though and I know Im one of them..I dont feel comfortable enough for my husband to be hanging out with women he use to date.
@gellah (193)
• Philippines
21 May 07
for some people, it is like that. i wonder why don't they just tell the truth, maybe cos that person dont want to add much more pain to the other party, thus, they lie. THOSE people just dont get the fact that the truth hurts for a while unlike when you lie, you just give that person a burden s/he'll carry on for so long. I dont understand why. As of my experience, I used to do that with this certain person. i told him that im not ready and all, then the next day, he saw me with this new guy, and I believe I just gave him twice the pain.
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@misssweetthingg (355)
• United States
21 May 07
I agree. Hurt is hurt but it hurts worse when you are lied to. Hurt will happen with the truth and with a lie during a breakup.
@donsky14 (5990)
• Philippines
21 May 07
Yeah, honesty is really needed during break ups, and understanding and open mindedness as well.
My last break-up was really weird. it was honest in a sense that, I told him the truth why we need to break up. But it was really sudden, he wasn't expecting it...and i'm sure he really didn't want me to go. The weird thing about that is, when I told him that we need to break-up..we both cried...but after a while we were laughing. hehe. weird huh? We decided to stay friends...
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@misssweetthingg (355)
• United States
21 May 07
Well thats good that you were able to stay friends..some relationships just arent meant to be.
@rexiemay (401)
• Philippines
27 Jul 07
because breaking up will always be that way. there is no easy way to break somebody's heart as they say. if everything is good between the two of you, then why break up in the first place. i guess all of us must know that it is a consequence of breaking up. it is a sad fact indeed.
