I want to distance myself from my in-laws right/wrong?!
By mgmagana
@mgmagana (3618)
United States
May 21, 2007 6:52pm CST
so my in-laws are moving out of my house after 4 1/2 yrs. they have been nothing but poison in our lives. my husband could care less whether we ever speak to them or not. we've already cut my father in-law out after he accused us of stealing from him (which we didn't). so they're moving out and after knowing them for 11 yrs. they have not been helpful or anything positive for my family and i. they have stressed me out repeatedly and just been a nightmare to have around. my hubby's oldest brother has managed to cut everyone out of his life, his baby's mom told him too. now i'm thinking of doing the same once they're gone. i don't want to talk to them, visit or allow my husband to do the same. I don't want to know how they're doing and i don't want them to know how we're doing. is this wrong? i know a lot of u will not agree with me, but these people have been poison in our lives. has anyone done this b 4, and if so do u regret it? Please give me some input on this!
4 responses
@mystery5 (350)
• India
23 May 07
Well, all I can say is 'all the best'
Irrespective of who they are, I think you should move away from people who poison your lives. I still would suggest that you don't prevent your husband from meeting them, since they are his parents.
You could ofcourse, mention to him that you wouldn't like it, but they are HIS parents and he is free to do what he likes, and then observe if they try to poison his mind when he tries visiting them. Then you could try to step in and do some damage control.
@babykay (2131)
• Ireland
22 May 07
I think it depends. Do they have any redeeming characteristics? If they do, perhaps don't take such drastic action as cutting them out completely.
It is good that they are moving out, I imagine this arrangement of living with your inlaws would be stressful at the best of times, nevermind when you don't get on and when you are being accused of theft!!
Perhaps wait till they have moved out and then take a few weeks to decide. It is rarely a good idea to make decisions when you are overwrought with anger. Maybe try and keep hostilities to a minimum for the remainder of the time they are there. But if as you say, after careful consideration, these people are nothing but poison, forget them and cease contact. Good luck!!
@mgmagana (3618)
• United States
22 May 07
thx, that's the best advice i think i could get, b/c u're right i might be making this decision out of anger and i should give it time once they're gone to c if i still feel the same way! but no there r no redeeming characteristics, the lady made my life hell when i started dating her son and i will never forgive that!
@TerryZ (22076)
• United States
22 May 07
Im sorry to hear this myfriend. Sometimes its good to put someone out of your life when you feel the way you do. And soon you will start feel much better. Being around negative people like that tends to put aggravation and stress in your life. I say good riddens to them!
@mgmagana (3618)
• United States
22 May 07
thanks so much terryz for ur response, i feel the same way, why would u want someone in ur life no matter who it is that just keeps spreading poison? i know i don't i just hope my hubby feels the same way, he had a horrible life growing up and realizes his parents made his life that way, not intentionally but there were things that could've made it better but they were selfish.
@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
19 Feb 12
I think depend on what you tell there is nothing wrong in not to communicate for them anymore. They are accusing your family that your family steal to them. I think, not because he is the father of your husband he have the right to accuse your family like that. I also think it is better for your family to separate from them to avoid the argument but i think it is okay to allow your husband to visit your in-laws because they are still his parents..
