Coping Mechanisms...

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Well, All of us hit our hard times.. I am on one at the moment myself.. Sometimes I cope well other moments I black out and then come out yelling so loud, my voice is echoing like thunder across the land, and I have no idea how loud I am, or when I had lost it to such rage other then knowing I suddenly yelled so much so I hand to cling to a birch bark tree to stay on my feet because I was so dizzy.. This was my reaction moments after I had a fight with my mother, and was told they are selling the house, they were not going to tell me, Mom had planned to try to hide it from me so she had an excuse to go through all my belongings and throw away what she calls "trash" when it is informative information, sental mental items, and news articles, and papers I saved, that I like to read over and over again.. Something I used to do for hours before meeting the internet.. So blacking out under stress, and yelling and screaming with the thunderous voice is NOT the best way to cope, at least I was able to verbally release that energy so that myself or others was not harmed, althought my blood pressure shot through the roof which is what triggered the black out in the first place, as my yelling was begging for a lightning bolt, to finish what it started.. That is how hard I am taking this.. After working hard for 7 years being lied to do and living in a rotten situation on and off because of people you were forced to live with.. Very very difficult for me to cope. So one good thing is as I go through my belongings... I am trying to give my school notes, and items at least one last hurrah if I can... Some notes I have are on coping mechanisms... I do not know the original source, I believe these coping mechanisms sheet was from my Values Death and Dying class. Ways to cope: Crying - Crying or sobbing bursting into tears maybe be a healthy way of letting the dam break. However crying in appropriate places, with appropriate people is more healing... and for many crying with someone is more comfortable than crying alone. I struggle to physical cry, and when I do I cry so hard I get seriously ill. It was starting to cry and my own upsets that led to the blackout and a yelling fit.. that was stopped only after I heard my Dad yell, what's wrong? Working is another way some cope.. By working people can find peace and solitude, and even help lesson the pain by distracting it from becoming so intense.. So right now, posting so many topics on mylot tonight is helping me cope, and forcing myself to remain busier than bee... but I will admit I still do hope for a miracle... Last time I saw that place listed on the internet, and the real estate sign on it. I felt like I was dying... and just knowing this is coming up again.. really hurts and kills me... Another form of coping is exercising... This can also too help by means of distraction. Any form of physical activity, running, jogging, dancing... I often sing and dance out my grief, or fast walk it out. Physical activity and crying both releases endomorphins into the blood stream, this feeling is also known as the runners high, is a natural way for the body to kill both emotional and physical pain, and temporarily block it... Reading books can also bring comfort... and even help assisting in rethinking about your situation... I was thinking of some of my favorite books and movies, and I thought how Ironic it is.. That most of my favorite stories are about strong will and determination, or about saving their Grandparents or their parents land or homes, as they tried to hang onto their culture and traditional ways, or fight to beat the odds in a race or a contest to win for these reasons... I wish there was a such contest for me... other than fighting and trying to earn 1,000 dollars a month for 360,000 dollars within probably less then a month... Feels hopeless.. I so wish, I had that miracle those stories all had. Then my own life, could be a good storie, to share as well. Not like I do not share many good, bad, and unbelieveable true stories from my life. I hope I make you all smile more than cry.. But if your cry for me. Thank You, and bless you. - DNatureofDTrain