Can you love a man who cheated on you in the past
By AcousticSoul
@AcousticSoul (1309)
United States
May 25, 2007 3:07pm CST
My ex Boyfriend and I were so in love... So I thought.. I mean for 7 months... and thats a long time for me.... everthing was going smooth... it seemed like there wasn't a day that went by I couldn't stop thinking about him, and girls he was the type to send poetry... very good with words...buy me jewlery, rings and necklaces... complimented me every day... it seemed like he put me on top of the world... and then I started to get that womens intuition...
in my heart i felt like things were starting to change.. my morning calls seemed to seize and his beautiful paragraphs of love seemed to shorten down to one word hello's and good bye's...
I felt like I was loosing him... girls where poping up on his MYSPACE... and I really started to feel insecure...
well come to find out he was talking to about 3 women and claiming them to be firends only... yet I found a number on my Verizon phone statement to a girl all the way in a nother state...
and therefore I left him...
but the love is still there... we still talk and you can tell the feeling is mutual but in the back of my mind I can't get over him talking to other women...
he want's to marry me...he got on one knee and gave me a temp. ring and now he is shoping for a more expensive ring
should I see if there could be a future or go with my instincts and give up... I really don't know what I should do
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4 responses
@billionaire5 (1333)
• United States
28 May 07
Always go with your intuition, listen to your inner self the signs are all there from the beginning don't talk yourself into something you know you don't feel comfortable with and don't let him tell you different from what you already see. It hadn't been a full year and the behavior changed, God always shows you the truth. Love yourself, be honest with yourself always stay true to yourself and he will send you someone who will treat you and love you as you deserve. Never settle for less than you deserve and you deserve it all remember that. The feelings aren't mutual you are not calling men in other states and calling them friends and he did it on your phone. Go with your instincts they are not wrong, trust me the right one will come along and he is not it.
@AcousticSoul (1309)
• United States
29 May 07
that is so ture and I am not saying this to agree but over this past weekend I prayed that God would show me the truth instead of me being blind in so called love.. if he really loved me then I wouldn't feel so much discomfort... I would feel secure and I havent felt that way since we got back together...
so I let it go again and I asked for him to be removed ... I'm tired of this back and fourth...
he proclaimed he was ready to be with me and the whole weekend I didn't get a single phone call... I am better than that... and there is no reason to go backwards... only forward from here on out...
"up grade"...
thank you for your repsonses I can tell they are truely from experience and not just something you feel is worth chatting about...
thanks
@billionaire5 (1333)
• United States
29 May 07
Yes, I have a 19 year old daughter that I have to look after and protect from getting involved with the loser who want to steal her future, I have always taught her self love is always first and foremost. Whenever you are in a relationship and you feel insecure or feel bad more than you feel good than it is not a good relationship for you. Do let anyone treat you less than you deserve and don't settle for less than what you want or need.
@34momma (13882)
• United States
29 May 07
girl i don't know about this one. i think you should always go with your first mind, that voice in your head telling you what to do. cheating after 7 months which is not a very long time is a red flag to me. if you do choose to get back together, i would not be thinking about getting married until he proves that he is in the relationship for you and you only. best of luck with this one honey
@AcousticSoul (1309)
• United States
29 May 07
and you are so right this past weekend has shown me things... in which I asked for... there is a reason we broke up...and I think that we should stay apart...
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@Justme2007 (1848)
• United States
25 May 07
No because you will always think about what he/she did and it will hurt to remember. It also depends on who they cheated with family,friend that will really hurt, some unknown person will always have you wondering when you see a certain person on the streets or somewhere you will wonder is that her/him because that looks like so and so type. God bless
@missladycc (154)
• United States
27 May 07
It really depends on the person. some people can forgive and move forward, and then there are people who can forgive but have a hard time moving forward, like myself. If he's special to you try and make it work, if he's not special to you, drop'em like he's hot. Follow your heart and don't just enjoy things that look, and smell good:)
