My Kids Not invited to the Baby shower

Thats a good one lol......I should!! I think though she may have already it?? I just hope that my kids dont grow up to act like them=(
Thanks so much for your Response
Stacy

Hummm, well then a visit is in order. Show your sweetness off and leave. Hahaha. How can your ex be mad at you for visiting with well wishes?

I'd be very concerned about my kids feelings after the baby shower event. If they are starting this now, think how it will explode in years to come.

your too funny! Thats good! LoL ....Well at least I can smile now Thank you so much..>Stacy

So Stacy, are you gonna turn into an angel in disguise? hehe

I'm glad you are smiling now even though this is serious. I feel for you, it's a bad situation and not fair to your kids.

I so hope this stops too....I am just worried about my kids and how this will affect them when they are older. Thank you so much for your Response
Stacy

It was for all girls only. But When the kids told me her daughter who was 11 was running the baby shower I thought my kids would have been invited since they had to go there anyways. They should have just changed weekends with me which I would have understood. But to drag the kids to the park for 3 hours knowing there was a baby shower and Kerstin was allowed to be there was just so hurtful ....
Thank you so much for your response
Stacy

WOW very well said ......I agree 100% No children should attend a baby shower, I guess what had upset me is that since she had all these others kids there that my kids should have been the 1st to go.....Yes the mother in law was there and I thought it was very odd why she would ask me such a Question (still puzzled) Your Right I didn't get a call asking for the kids to attend so buying them a new outfit was a silly thing to do. (but I guess they gained a new outfit) The only thing that bothers me is for the kids I can move on but you are right, Thank you so much for taking the time to respond to me I really appreciate it

I agree that no children should be at a baby shower. But I totally disagree that the kids being invited was the "new" wife's call. Im sorry but I come from a broken family and I too would assume I was invited because Im sure that they did planning in front of the children as well! Perhaps maybe it was so crowded and the children were there at the beginning of the shower that the mother in law didn't notice they were gone if there were truely as many kids there as she says there was. The "new" wife however not interested in the "other" children still needs to be respectful to them and include them in things that are happening in THIER father's life no matter what the situation. Just because they no longer see him every day shouldn't make those kids any less important to him. If that be the case perhaps he has no desire to love and care for those children. Love from a parent shouldn't change just because they have moved on in life from being divorced. That is detremental to those children alone!!!

Your kids are HER husband's kids aswell! When she married your ex she knew he had children, she can't shut them out they are a part of his life and always will be! Seriously though your ex husband needs to grow some coconuts and tell his wife his kids will always be around and to get used to it!

I so agree.....But you know the man I am now with got together with me knowing I had 4 children. Mike has been so good to my kids working from home so he can be here for them, he no word of a lie drives Reuben and I's 4 kids back and forth to school everyday, he spends every last dime on them to buy them Milk and bread everyday. He stops the kids when they are acting up and shows them in way they can understand what they are doing wrong. I guess I should be lucky that their sperm donor dad only See's them every 2 weeks giving him 2 visits outta the month. What goes around I sure hope comes back and bites him in the Axx
Thank you so much for your response
Stacy

They are and what they are doing is beyond more than damaging I think....But then again he has a son who is 12 who he never sees or pays support for, I think he needs to stop having children until he can learn to be a better DAD.
Thank you so much for your Response
Stacy

I have tried to talk with him but its always her he's asking and her replying to me...I get so upset and tell her I didn't marry and have children with her I married and had children with Him the father ...But for some reason it seems like he gives her control Grrrrr
Thanks so much for your response
Stacy

She is probably in control. Or he is like most guys and hates confrontation of any sort, so he puts her up to it, and she probably enjoys it because she feels like she is slighting you.

My sister in law was telling me today that Stacey my Ex's wife hates my daughter Cierra and Me ......I don't even know her. I mean my Ex leaves me with 4 kids gets together with then Bang! She calls herself a Christian, and please don't get me wrong I should not judge, but a true Christian would not treat others in this kind of manner.
Not setting any good examples to my children in my eyes=)

Thinking about it though....life is full of crap that we dont want to deal with. Primarily we think of ourselves and our worries, children and beliefs but the truth of the matter is everyone does...so I guess if you were in her shoes you might have done it just the same...some people can deal with ex's other people are so insecure that they cant and they try to make it so that you are no longer a part of their life.

Very well said!!!! Thank you so much for your thoughts.

She is rude.....Very and for be already being a mother you would think she would have more common sense then what she does, But you know I guess There is really nothing I can do about it expect to talk to my kids and explain how its not right what they are doing and hopefully we can learn from all this.
Thank you so much for your Response

I think that your right I should just be the bigger person and show my kids you cant change someone who doesn't want to change.=)
Thank you so much for your response
Stacy

I don't think the kids really know....I also know they don't fully understand whats going on around them in this. It just hurts to see this and there is really nothing I can do. Its unreal how some people only think of themselves.
Thank you so much for your response
Stacy

I have to say this, number one, the wife has nothing to do with the kids. If your ex doesnt stop what he is doing, your kids will grow up to resent him and he does not want that. Ive seen it happen. He needs to put his foot down and stop going along with what his wife says because your kids come first.

Thank you so much for that.....KIDS DO COME FIRST, They didn't ask to put into this ugly mess. I just want whats best for them, but doesn't seem no matter how hard I try It doesn't seem to get me anywhere ....
Thank you so much for your response
Stacy