Can you relate with this?  

ITs difficult... all relationships go through a rough spot in time and sometimes its easier to blame your partner than admit the truth....

I have felt unneeded as well in some of my relationships and its a hard feeling, but if you feel those memories will be revisited and feelings can be rekindled then try fight through these hard times... if you don't see the relationship surviving then don't waste time suffering through it.

Hi urvashi I feel very sad with your present situation. But I hope that is love which you are bound to still now and you can't get it forgotten. It happens in life. Don't get upset. I suggest to discuss the whole stuff with your partner on your wedding anniversary or any special day taking your own initiative and turn him on. It often happens with men that they are busy with some other tensions in life. From your post it is evident you have a deep love and use this force of love to get your partner back. I am sure Love always wins and your partner also is on the same boat. So go ahead make a plan and turn him on with your true love. Don't get upset. You will win. If won share it. Will wait for that winning post from your end.

I was told that the falling in love stage lasts about 2 years. If after that first initial 'falling' part we don't gind something of more substance then it is not going to last. When you fall in love with someone you have your blinders on your eyes. You overlook their faults and negativities, because they are so perfect and romantic. At about the 2 year stage the blinders start to come off. You start to see the flaws and the arguing starts. Those 'in love' feelings seem to vanish and nobody really understands what happened. It was so good! How did it get like this? It is just that reality sets in. There is a book I was told to read called 'The five Love Languages' by Gary Chapman. You might find it very helpful if you want to work it out with this person.

I can understand how you feel. This is the married life, but it still up to the individual. My hubby is a part time musician. He always said his life starts after his boring work. For the first three years of our marriage, he played less gigs and care me more. After that, he plays on more and more gigs and leaves me at home with our daughter. Honestly he touches the instrument more than touch me. Though there are only several sentence to describe my situation, deep down you can imagine how I feel. I am still learning how to cope with him and the family. Therefore, to answer your question. I only can suggest you to talk to him and tell him how you feel. Communication plays an important role in a relationship. All the best!

I feel the same way you do. I use to be happy as all happy could be. But I guess I still think about the past and try to keep everything alive but it doesnt seem that way anymore. He is always on the comp and never beign with the famil for any amount of time. He no longer helps to push my daughter to the next step, and the list goes on and on. I think that we want the relationship to a point but we are not sure yet.

For me I knwo that he is not the one. I have had plenty of dreams that gave me a day that we were to break up and I have gone through those days not saying a word to him. (all of my dreams have came true so far)
Well I knew why. I found him well just put it this way I asked who he was thinking about....

I dotn think that you can romance if there is nothign there! I'm almost to that point. But the blame game thing I hate that casue When I say how I"m feeling then he turns it around and say what about me yada yada yada... Then I jsut say then tell me what you are feeling and he will just repeat what I just said to him and I'll ask him to ellaberate and he cant. I do everythign for him, I clean the house, take care of his kids do the food shoipping take the trash out.... The onyl thing he does is to go to work (he is out for ahernia) and he cut the lawn with a rider and we live in town!LOL but I do everythign else. and there is nothign in return no appreciation nothing. So girl I know how you feel but keep your head up. Keep me posted

i'm sorry of what had happening to you this time friend..but in a relationship there are really situations that come into that moment that do you think that you know him that much, that everything would be as sweet as what you've thinking..but i think you need to have more patients when it comes to relationship because if you don't have, things will go into worst and may end into nothing..i can relate with that kind of experience and we end up with separation..were not living together but we have child and the time comes that were not in love with each other, and he leaves me when i'm still pregnant..but i believe that it's part of a relationship, that sweetness may disappear but need to move on..

I believe that love don't always last that long...Men seems to have not much contentment in life...Not all but some men. Once upon a time they love you with all their heart but then when time pass these men turns to better to worst...Love is there but they can't control themselves to look for others or flirt with others...Sometimes love fades but if there is sacrifice and understanding sometimes it works for the better...but not always...I felt once that way with my husband...I tried sacrifice,understanding and forgiveness...sometimes I regret it but I know I do it more for the kids and not for myself...

It breaks my heart because I completely understand the discussion you have.It is because i can relate it.And i personally experienced it with my xhusband. Its not an easy situation. It can kill, and it can drag your soul in a place call hell.

We have our own choices. Though we need to sacrifice many things but we also need to love ourself.We only live in a short period of time, could we allow this to happen and be sad for the rest of our life just for the sake of holding on the "marriage"...? Damn!!!Love is give and take...It takes tango and it takes two to survive!!!

I had already my choices and here i am happy!!!I dont regret anything because, its been 4 years now, and my life is more happier than with him which he only brings out the worst in me!!!Now i know that i am more a better person compare before. Thaks God!!!

Dear Friend,

i shouldr remind you that life is short and u have to be happy in that short time.

Thanks

hi you sound exactly how i felt a few months ago but I was unable to stay ina relationship like that. I still love and probably always will but i was very unhappy and so was he i was so unhappy a few months ago I took an overdose and plunged into serious depression. I could not stay in this relationship. I recently left and know it was the right decision. even though we have to kids together. I know I made the right decision. everyone handles situations differently.