I found this crass  

Thanks for your comments. Glad I'm not the only one.

LOL living in sin. Been there, done that, have the tee shirt!
We got married in secret. Boy did we get flack for not even throwing a party so we could get gifts. Funny isn't it?
I mean I know that they are living in a house already. As I said to my hubby "fine you have what you need so register for things you want but don't necessarily need but don't ask for cash".

Thanks for the BR!
Did you end up giving them cash or vouchers, or getting them a gift anyway?!
I could understand if they were saving to get a new car or move house or something, then of course they would ask for cash rather than un-necessary items, but if that's the case, they should certainly have put something on the invite.

It surprises me that the gifts come forst in the states. As usual, the trends are starting to pass over here to the UK, but generally, wedding gifts are given at the reception. As with baby showers, most of the gifts are brought when people come to visit the new family at home.

You are welcome. I ended up not going to the shower. (turns out none of the groom's friends went) So they just got a check on the wedding day.
Gifting here is getting crazy. You give bridal shower gifts and wedding gifts. You give baby shower gifts and the you tend to bring a gift when you visit the baby. It is nuts!!