if you and your best friend love the same man,what will u do?
By nikko84111
@nikko84111 (368)
China
June 7, 2007 9:58pm CST
if you and your best friend are falling in love with the same man, what will u do? my opinon is thst i will give up if my best friend love that man so much.because i love my friend i don't means to lost her.but what is your solution? will you give up or just move on ?
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5 responses
@aprilsong (1884)
• China
8 Jun 07
This is an interesting question,but it do exists in reality.I knew two girls who fell in love with the same man.The two girls once were very good friends,but since they were in love with the same man.Their friendship faded away.But u know what?The result is the man married to another woman,not either of the two girls.Maybe he got tired of their quarrel and maybe he do not want to hurt either one of them.
If i were in this situation,i will go to the man to talk with him in details.To ask who on earth he loves.Me or my friend.If he loves her,i will leave him peacefully and still take my friend as my friend.
@nikko84111 (368)
• China
8 Jun 07
that is cute.i have see a film which talking about a story like that,but the difference is two girls all give up the man and be good friends as before.they don't means to hurt each other. so ~~~:)
@sakura_ryuzaki (348)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
well, for me i would if i know i would win against her but if i have a bigger chances of winning him. i would take the risk and battle it out for the love for him. friendship and love are two differfent elements in life. you can love and have a friends through it. but if the love your loooking for is not available for you. let him go if that person really cares and love her more than you are. i would give up and give way but if the guy choose me than her. i would never let him go no matter what people or my friend may say.
@nikko84111 (368)
• China
8 Jun 07
thank you for your response.thank goodness i have no situation like this. exactly i don't know how to win the man we both fall in love with.it is really tough when you are the one.
@kishusia (1066)
• India
26 Apr 09
I have never understood the term 'falling in love'. Why people say that they fall in love, why can't they say that they rise in love. Love is a form of God. Love is within us. We have to only discover it.
Now, the question. If my best friend loves the same person I love, what will I do? Love is giving not demanding. I will not come in the way of my best friend.
@huilee (1005)
• Singapore
8 Jun 07
This is such a tough question...
But i guess this sensitive topic sorta happened to me...
My best friend used to like this guy called W...
I was attached back then...
My friend declared her love and interest to this guy...
All three of us were schoolmates...
W declined my friend's love... Coz hes also attached at that moment...
Upon graduation...
We decided on a graduation trip with a few of our close friends...
THat included the three of us...
At that moment, me, W and my best friend were unattached...
W and me grew closer together upon the trip and i guess that was when we started liking each other...
Since the trip, we grew closer and eventually got together...
But on the other side, i felt tension from my friend...
I can feel the distance that she is keeping from me...
We used to be so close, we can talk or do anything under the sky...
But now, everything seems so distant...
N i am so sad...
When we got together, she doesnt likes him anymore...
But i guess the feeling and thought she sees us together reminds her of how she used to like him...
I nv thought i would like him either...
Really...
N i still rejected him couple of times coz i thought of my best friend, i noe she will be sad... But never expected things to be that bad...
=(
Till now, we are still drifting apart...
I really feel very sad...
It seems that we really cant have both our world...
My bf and my best friend...
@nikko84111 (368)
• China
8 Jun 07
ya..but if the man love you more, or your friend is your best friend,i think she should forgive you all and make a wish to you.nomatter who fall in love first, who can last is the most important point.and i think maybe the problem is your friend can not forgive you.it is really made you feel sad.but forget it, to love him if you really love,nomatter the things happened before,the future is the most important.
@nikko84111 (368)
• China
8 Jun 07
thanx for your sharing.that is my answer exactly. but sometimes the problem is that maybe the man love you two.he don't want to give up any one of you.





