How will i teel him that i donot love him?

Philippines
June 12, 2007 3:52am CST
i met a guy in the net, and he sent me his diary.And he told me about his mental incapacity and he lacks self-confidence even though he is an engineer i feel sorry after reading his diary and what is on my mind is to give him moral and spiritual support.And when i'd done that, i have noticed the big change in him.After 3 months of chatting, he proposed for marriage, cos of my willingness for him not to be disappointed i accepted the proposal to the fact that i dont have any feelings for him.And in our every conversation he always reminds me of the proposal.I think of telling him the truth that i donot love him all i want is friendship, but i always change my mind cos i dont want him to be depress and i dont want him to live in a miserable life again.I made this cos i have a sister that is very much like him(mental incapacity).I made an experiment on him so that i will know how to treat my own sister.While we are talking i have noticed that he is well now, you will not going to think that he has a mental capacity cos he talks so smart, he is very intelligent and he gains self-confidence already and i am thanking God cos He have used me to help this person to lift up his self and face tomorrow with a greater hopes.My biggest problem is that he keeps on telling me that he loves me.How will i tell him that i donot love him without hurting him so bad?
2 responses
@abrarr (1246)
• Pakistan
12 Jun 07
you have to take a daring step for that,just go and ask he that everything he thinks can't always be right and can't happen, because its life in which if u love someone we can't find love in return!!!
@maucute (979)
• Philippines
12 Jun 07
Well, this is quite a difficult situation you got yourself into.. First and foremost, you need to be honest not only to yourself but also to this guy you said you've met on the net.. If you don't really loved him then why did you accept the proposal in the first place? Proposals are serious things and the fact that you already know the guy loves you doesn't mean that you can just say yes even if you don't have feelings for him.. Tell him what you have mentioned here, being truthful to him now is much more easier to bear than not saying anything and just avoiding him at all.. Explain to him in a nice way that you're there for him to show support and it makes you glad that he's better now and that you feel you are needed beside him is because you understand his situation because your sister is suffering the same thing..