Ending Bad Relationships & Letting Go. Which Are You Holding On Or Letting Go?  |
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 In the road of life there are no sure things and the least of all is how a relationship is going to go and end up. Is it going to last a long time or is it going to be a bad relationship and you have to break up with the person. We don't know the answer to this at the beginning of a relationship. A lot of times the people we are going out with are on their best behavior until well into the relationship. Sometimes even until that final commentment is made. So the best a person can do is make the experience a learning experience and learn to benefit from the mistake. Look at what went wrong and don't follow that path again. Read this and tell me if you agree with it. I do.
"Relationships that do not end peacefully, do not end at all."
-- Merrit Malloy
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It takes a lot of energy to drag a relationship around after it has
ended. Sometimes we hold on to the anger and shame because we've
become so used to it, it's the only way we feel alive. Sometimes we
hold on because we want to punish the person or persons who hurt
us. But in reality, holding on to the memory of a painful
relationship after it has ended does us about as much good as
carrying the enemy on our back everywhere we go. The enemy gets a
free ride and we get a sore back. Doesn't seem quite fair does it?
There is another way, of course. We can acknowledge that the real
purpose of the relationship is for giving us an opportunity to
grow, and then let go of the hurt and move on.
May your always be willing to let go of what no longer serves you.
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 sunshinelady (6113) | 3 years ago | A long time ago many years before I met my husband a situation I continued in. As you I should have left a long time before I did. But I call that hind sight. For awhile it colored my relationships. But then one day my very best friend and I had a discussion and she made the comment to me that I could either dwell on it and be miserable or get passed it and start living again. I chose the second and after a piece of time met my husband. Come this August we will have been married for 35 years. He is a much better man in all ways than this other guy was. As you say things do happen for a reason. | |
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2.  whiteheather39 (13420) | 3 years ago |  I am definitely a let go person. I will not do it impulsively but I will not live ot stay in a relationship that makes me unhaappy. (I have had two ex-husband and many ex b/friends.) LOL
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| 3. byfaithonly (6302) | 3 years ago |  This is something I struggled with for years - when a relationship ended I would hang on for years thinking there might be something I could do or that something would change and the relationship might work.
It is useless though - it's much easier to let go and get on with life being open to new and fresh opportunities.
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4.  gabs8513 (19724) | 3 years ago |  Yes those words are very true
I still have to learn that I will be not be verbally abused and run down anymore, that I am not going to be called names, that I am not just a part of the furniture who has nothing to say
It is very hard to try and realize that it is not happening anymore and just because is mad, that they are not mad at you and that People respect you and not disrespect you
Once the Insecurity is there and I had the Insecurity even as a Child it is very hard to believe that I have no need to be insecure anymore
I hope that one Day I will be able to let go of the Hurt and let go of it
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