Are you fed up with those who play the BLAME GAME?

You have a great point, I believe my dad called it "passing the buck." I think all people have been guilty of that at one time or another in their lives to a certain degree, but these days it's getting really bad. We have people in prisons who have been wrongly convicted, and later proven not guilty by dna testing. These people aren't being released because the courts don't want to admit they made a mistake an overturn another judge's ruling or reopen another prosecutor's case, taking a conviction from his track record. The politicians lie so much (well, most of them) that people not only expect it, but accept it and go on like we have no business doing otherwise. Abusive people beating their spouses and children (yes, I have actually met 2 abused husbands in my life--that I'm aware of) then having the gall to manipulate those spouses and children to thinking that they actually deserve that kind of treatment...grrrr! I could go on and on, but I won't. I'll clean my own closet now. On a more personal level, I have come to realize that I cannot control what other people do, but I must learn to control how I react to it. Sometimes my temper and primal desire to strike back at someone who has offended me over rules my common sense, allowing my big mouth to take over. Admitting that I'm the one who ultimately decides what my mouth says is a huge step in controlling my primal instinct to lash back. Great subject for a discussion.

Took me along time to deconstruct my own wounded child to stop blaming my parents for what I didn't like about myself. And now when I catch myself blaming someone else for my own feelings I stop and look inside cause it's not them but me that needs the attitude adjustment. Unfortunately people like me are in the lowest percentage of the world's population thinking like this. The world is geared toward a victim mentality and so blame is now a right of passage! I now loathe conversations which continually incite blame and deflection of everything that ails a person. Blame is much easier than taking responsibility for your own emotions and feelings, yet that's exactly what is needed. Unless a person can not react to situations, it is their own problem. Blaming someone else is the easy way out, but paradoxically it will never solve their own problem, never.

Do you mean like the idiot that sued McDonald's after she spilled coffee on herself? It seems the one thing nobody is taught anymore is personal responsibility. They think that if they do something totally stupid it has to be somebody else's fault and someone else should pay for it. Before that famous afore-mentioned case I'd never have dreamed of such a thing ever happening. I mean, if I were stupid enough to place a scalding hot cup of coffee between my legs while in a moving car then was clumsy or unlucky enough to have it spill on me and - oh, the SHOCK!! - burn me I'd have been embarrassed to even tell anyone I'd done anything so dumb! Go figure! I guess it's just the times we live in today. Annie

Of course I've been guilty of this at some point too but I try to keep an eye on it. I am a firm believer that everyone makes choices...sometimes they don't even aware that they are. Too many times ppl make bad choices and then blame it on everyone and everything around them when actually it was up to them all along. !!HAPPY EASTER!! **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~

Ofcourse i am fed up by them. They use this blame system as a method, and there are many innocent people that believe them and feel in their net. I think that usually people that blame other people and see themselves as victims, are usually people that are not connected to their real age, to themself as an adult that can change things and decide what he wants or not. To blame someone is the easiest thing to do when you do not want to deal with things, But it really does not change anything in your life.

Blame game is played by people who lack knowledge , Spiritual Knowledge..:) Think about it friends

Yes...sometimes I dont understand why people are like that...If they dont get what they want or if things they expected to be never goes in the way they expected it to be...they got mad and do a lot of blaming so that the innocent people will get mad too... I guess it happens most of the time especially with the politicians and religious group. The politician once they dont win... They would say that they were fooled... they cant accept the fact that in every contest there is a winner and a looser... They build organizations tyhat the only goal is to pinpoint all the mistakes that the administration will do... find fault on the things that the administration will decide. And convince the innocent people that they should not believe in the present administration. In religious groups... everyone claims that they are the right group to believe...they are the one who will be saved at the end of time. They will point out what they think is wrong with the other group. They will point out the evilness of the other group. I dont know why people are like that. They seem not to be contented and thankful for what they have. There is always a tendency of putting the blames to the others. Why does we never learn to support and thinkfor the benefit of it all not to consider who is the winner and the looser.. Man is greatly thirsty for POWER.

Oh yeah. I hate that game! I guess people resort to blame because they can't accept any blame for themselves. They always want a "reason" why things don't work out. They can't accept the fact that sometimes $h!t just happens. Usually when something goes wrong everyone has had a part in it. Sometimes, like in marriages, it is nobody's "fault" they were just too different. In goverment, people just don't want to accept the fact that sometimes things are just too complex to be fixed. Sometimes there is no solution. The best we can do is try to manage a situation the best way we can. People will never all agree on how to balance a budget. Everyone has different priorities depending on their own experiences. People always want to think that their own cause is the most important cause. I'm not sure why people "need" to blame, but this is "why" I think they blame. Great topic.

Hmmm... one of the things I hate most - the blame game. I got stuck into it several times. And always made me feel bad. While it is true that there are reasons for every action we do, it is also valid to consider that we have a choice and we need to take responsibilities for whatever consequence that choice may bring. Maybe sometimes it is hard to admit our fault and ask for apologies. Or maybe sometimes we get coward to take responsibilities over the things that have been done or said. Concentrating on a small issue, when I was at age 10 my brother and I got spanked because of our quarrel. He blamed me for taking his pencil from his bag and I blamed him for losing mine 2 days ago and he blamed me and I blamed him and so on and we both got spanked (I wish mom didn't do that though hehe). Now that am mature enough and have my own career, I also encounter problems in the office - who sent what to this email addy, why did you cancel the meeting, etc... we all get defensive and blame one another especially those who are not around to defend themselves - how disgusting! Am tired of this as well - it ruins relationships, it hurts people and leaves issues unresolved.

Yes I am...this is a good thing to rant about. Everyone seems to be playing the blame game these days and no one gives a thought to holding others accountable...especially in the Bush administration. They have lied..and blamed...and they get away with it. The media runs with false stories they've picked up off a blog and never retract things or admit they were wrong...oh yes I am really fed up with the blame gamers...can't you tell!