Have you ever been BULLIED on ebay?  

I did contact ebay and they feel the feedback system is fair. They DID show me how to reply though and that did help some. Blogging about it there made me feel better too. But none of it helped my rating. I'm a little scared to try to sell anything though because if anyone looks at my feedback they'll see 3 and the very first is a big red minus.
Thnx 4 trying 2 help. That alone helps.

Thank you. I'm more worried about trying to sell with such a low rating... Well, I guess all I can do is try, that's the only way to get that rating up.
(((Oh. BTW...I saw your question about coffee or tea. Here's something I KNOW works. Raspberry leaf tea. Drink 1 cup a day and when it's time to go to the hospital, drink a very strong cup. My 1st baby took 26 hours without it, and my second only 4 hours with!)))

I wish all the sellers were as easy to get along with as you.

Thank you! I did, but other than a reply there wasn't much I could do, and it was a month before that new system came to be. I know he will keep doing the same to others and it will eventually catch up to him. Just over the weekend I have met 3 sellers that I just love, that added to the people here have made me feel much better.
I adore mylot for the people here I could care less if they pay me, the happiness it brings finding that there are more good people in the world than bad is priceless!

You're right about the power sellers, I've gotten one word answers to emails and felt like a pest, but better a pest than a bad deal. Even as a buyer I have to agree about the rating on shipping prices. I did ask one why so high and she explained very nicely that it wasn't carved in stone but that she was just being careful.
I know some people insist on all caps, which is shouting, but the first msg was normal, the second took some effort in that it wasn't just caps it was a 20 font in bold! And it's just a shame that it's the first one there. I think that ebay could at least make it so that retaliatory feedback isn't possible. I also think the star rating needs to apply to both buyer and seller.
I'm going very slow at getting used to the whole ebay thing. You and everyone here on mylot have helped more than you will ever know. That's the GOOD thing that happened from the experience, I learned very early to be careful... and I've met many more nice people than I would have otherwise. Thank you so much.

OMG! I see what you mean! Go look at what "shopgirl" has to say about all this!

Yes I have. I got jacked for about 400$. Some guy tried to sell a iPod and he never mailed it. Took the money through PayPal and ran. Gone, PayPal didn't do a thing!

Did you pay with a credit card thru Paypal?
If you did do a chargeback thru your credit card company, if not you can file mail fraud charges against the seller and also file a police report in his town.

I did tell them about my name, and they said all I could do was reply. I think the problem is that my name is the same here as there and he just guessed pamthegypsy was a Pamela. The not shipping to my state does seem to be a tax thing. I'm glad I noticed it. Something else I learned today! I'm really considering a different name for selling, maybe a company name or something of the sort. Can I do that?

Yeah its always best to have 1 id for selling and 1 id for buying, that way a bad seller can't ruin YOUR selling reputation with bad feedback.

I would go ahead and contact ebay again about your name being in feedback, you might get someone that actually knows the feedback rules...lol
But if not just give a calm factual reply so people can see for themselves that it was an undeserved negative.

Thank you, I'm going to do that. It really irritates me to be called Pamela. Maybe I'm a little too feminist for my own good sometimes, but this jackass has really gone too far.
I can take my mind off it by trying to think of a new screen name to sell with!!! You have helped alot. Thank U again!

Just a note to ask U 2 go see the most recent comment. I think one of us hit a nerve!

Well, that's good to know that if someone screws a seller that they can block that person...BUT, to be prejudice against all newbies is really wrong. Everyone is new at some time. I can't figure out what they think I'll do. As soon as I win a bid I hit the paypal button and pay! I bid because I want the item... I am very grateful to the seller that wasn't at all worried and thanks to him I have 2 good feedbacks.
As far as asking a seller for permission, well I'm sure someone better will buy their item. I don't feel I've done anything to warrant being treated as untrustworthy. It feels like I'm begging someone to buy something from them, I just can't do it. And it doesn't give the new person a very good impression. But, I also have to look at it all in the context of ebay and even mylot. On ebay you can't have a Dutch auction until you meet certain criteria...or pay $5.00. And even here you have to have a certain number to cut and paste. ??? Makes no sense to me.
I would say that if I ever do get started selling and eventually get to that lofty place where the "power sellers" reside, I would hope that I will have the sense to request that ebay not put that little avatar anywhere near my name. I would never want to be a member of that club.
Thanks for answering and listening!

Dissy, (how adorable!) Have you been in contact with the seller? If the pkg is being sent parcel post, it can take a while, they're slow, have to justify the postal rate increase by reminding us that we need them. I just had one take a full week.
I don't know how either but maybe someone will read this and tell us! Did you pay with paypal?

Well thank u :)
Yes I paid with PayPal, and next friday it will be 3 weeks,,..the last item i bought got to my home by a week, so I don't know why this one take so long to arrive. I've communicated with the seller, and he asked to wait till next friday.

Hmmm not fair. Why don't you have a look at ebays policies. I might be wrong, but I think the obligation is 30 days.
By comparison I have been lucky so far. Even the bully was fast to ship.
Read what my friend dfrog wrote down below. He's a really good egg! The man is just too neat to be dishonest. One of those people that can get caught in the rain and come out looking like he just stepped out of the shower...

Hey, you're doing better than me... But welcome to the ebay newbie club! Tell me do you feel the way I do about the way new people are treated by some sellers? (read 2 above this I think) Maybe it's a down south thing but I just can't be mean to someone that's new and doesn't understand everything. It makes me want to help the poor dears, not tell them they can't bid. It just seems plain to me that if I help someone, then they help the next person remembering how they were helped, well then that good feeling I got from helping a stranger could live forever!

I feel the same way that you do. Everybody has to learn and should not be treated ugly or looked down on because they are just starting out on E-Bay or anything else for that matter. I try to treat people the way that I want to be treated myself. If someone asks me a question about one of the products that I am selling I answer them as quickly and as nicely as I can. I wouldn't blame someone for not wanting to do business with a seller who talks ugly or hateful to them. I know I wouldn't give them any business.

I certainly hope things go much better for you in the future and that your feedback score continues to grow higher and higher. :)
SheliaLee

Another thing dear friend, I agree with you also that it shouldn't depend on what the person's feedback score is whether or not to bid on their product. How on earth can anyone's score increase if someone doesn't bid and give them some business? I'm so thankful for my little #2 score but I hope that it doesn't stop people from bidding on my products just because it is still low. If there is something on E-bay that I'm interested in buying I look at there score to see if it is positive. The only way I wouldn't bid on someone's low score is if the feedback that they do have is bad and then it would have to be really bad for me not to give them another chance. Everyone can have a bad day now and then or something happen during shipping that they can have no control over.

I hope I have given you some encouragement dear friend.

SheliaLee

You did. You made me feel much better, and just knowing that you're out there on ebay too makes me feel less alone! ((((HUG))))

SheilaLee, You have got to go see the newest comment! This "shopgirl" bless her heart, has proven my point!

Mercy! I know what you mean hon. That is awful! I'm glad everyone who is on E-Bay isn't that way. Nobody would want to sell on there again.

Sir. you know me too well! Now I know where to go to ask my stupid questions, and I have plenty, and a garage FULL of stuff to auction! I was actually thinking of just taking everything to local auctions, used to go to one in Ziegler wanna go see sometime? Maybe pick up a few things to ebay?
I can't believe this is your first post! With your writing ability?!?! I thought for sure you would take to this place right off. To busy scootin' around town ain't ya boy.
Well thanks for the advice, and for jumpin' in here, and learnin me up some about this thing!

All that thunder and lightening and not a drop of rain for my roses, now I have to go out and water them before going to sleep... probably feed some skeeters while I'm out there.
Holler back!

Ask me how I learned these things. Almost ten years on ebay and I've probably made every mistake that could be made.

Well that's lovely for the sellers, but it does nothing to protect the new people. In fact the creep that gave me the negative feed back said: Pamela is new to ebay. Pamela needs to grow up! So besides using my real name, he actually stated that it was because this was my first transaction! A neutral feedback should NEVER be answered with a negative. As I said earlier, any seller that refuses to deal with new people will never see business from me. And any seller that I see has left neg FB for a neut FB sits in the same boat. I will never deal with them. My neutral FB didn't impact him at all yet he obviously took great joy in making my 0 a -1. And by doing that made it even more difficult for me to build my rating. I have no problem with a seller refusing to sell to someone with a horrible record, just with bullies and newbie haters. And it seems there's no shortage of them. So I have to say that even when my rating increases, I still won't do business with that sort of person And I still believe that ebay needs to do something about this system. Perhaps they are with the new star rating.
I hope so. I would hate to have to feel forced to give a pos FB to someone that didn't deserve it just to save myself. Caveat Emptor!